How to solve problems in a healthy way?

[Anonymous]

How to solve problems in a healthy way in any kind of relationship? Is it right to put blame on one or should problems be seen as something "external" for both parties to deal with?

[caring__1]

You can focus on the obstacle, or you can focus on the opportunity. It's your choice. Whatever you choose is the direction you'll go. Placing blame on others or ourselves or the weather is a total waste of time. We believe blame makes the problem go away, yet it's nothing more than a temporary bandaid. Discuss with the other person what the two of you would like to see as the outcome (look long-term, not short-term). Once you know where you're going, it's easier to stay on track and achieve your objectives. Work together as a team to accomplish a solution, and make sure no one actually loses. The more you focus on understanding the other person's perspective, the easier it tends to be to see effective options. If all you want is to be heard, the other person will reciprocate in kind.

[Shamalien]

I mean you gotta not let your emotions get the better of you and talk it out. Figure it out together. Make it a priority. If one partner isn’t making it a priority, MAKE them make it a priority. Insist upon it. Don’t get toxic though, you don’t deny them things to force them. You use mature ways

[Rizwan_khan]

I only know the healthy way is first respect and understand eachother and then whatever problem is always talk on that problem with calm mind do not fight while talking and just try to understand eachother.

[Waldoe]

try to remember... the Person is not a "Problem" it is a situation, attitude, event... and that is external and you should both want to eliminate it...

[KrakenAttackin]

Well, If the "problem" is the need to clear a room, I do it with a hand grenade and automatic weapons fire... very healthy.