How can I have a good balanced relationship with my narcissistic mother who emotionally abuses me, That it affects my relationship with my boyfriend?

[FictionalCharacter]

After my mom insults me or puts me down. I get depressed and withdrawal from all human interaction. That I feel worthless and I don’t want to talk to my boyfriend anymore.

What should I do?

[Harleigh90]

Have an almost identical 'relationship' with my mum too.

The answer to your question is you don't. You do what you can and live your life. If she has no intention to reach out for help or counselling, there is very little you can do.

My mum is also bipolar, which infuriates her narcissist trates. Our relationship consists on me insuring she has food, a weekly visit I dread and leave 90% of the time in tears.

Surround yourself with good people, talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, worries, concerns, if you communicate with him he will have better understanding to support you.