Do you sometimes wonder why you don't cry in situations in which you were supposed to cry or get sad? Can somebody help me?

[Fred_Cook]

My girlfriend is my neighbour, but her college is far away. So we meet only once in 3-4 months during her holidays. I used to get really sad and cry when she go back to college after holidays..

Today she went back and i was not as sad as I used to be. I don't know why. I have a lot of office work pending and the climate is too hot and irritating here, Don't know if it's because of all that..

Yes, my heart was feeling heavy and mood was off, so to get relief I recalled our memories and cried purposefully. When crying, I used to feel how much I love her. But what happened now?

Can somebody help?

[DizzyDesii]

We all process differently. I dont cry as funerals and just sit still and feel robotic. It makes others mad that I dont react. And when i do cry, i end up smiling within that same hour. My ex once got mad that i didn't cry when he had to go out of town. He cried but i didn't and then he told me he’d never trust crying in front of me again. Its whatever although He eventually did

[Fred_Cook]

Lol you're amazing

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks i think lol

[Guy__]

I cry at stressful situation but it seems fake to myself somehow. As if I'm not even upset but I cry. Whether it's a funeral or getting fired.

[LovingLoverReturned]

As someone already said, immunity.

Heheh, but I think maybe some sad music and a relatable scene will get you crying.

Maybe you don't allow yourself a break to cry? To occupied? Keeping busy helps depression... so

[Fred_Cook]

Yeah lol you're right. Thanks

[Apulu_Imback]

Maybe because you are used to cry. This happens with me too. When I was depressed before I cried literally everyday but even though so much is going on now I just feel heavy hearted. I can't cry. Cries without tears are painful because you can't unleash your pain in that. I don't cry anymore. It has been like a year since I cried last time. I think your heart is used to cry for that reason so it became stronger. After few more times maybe you won't feel heavy hearted too.

[Fred_Cook]

I think you're right and as a 13 year old, you're more than matured.

[Apulu_Imback]

Ah thanks a lot :) it's nothing but my poetic side lol.

[red324]

Sometimes I accidently laugh at something that wasn't supposed to be funny. I guess it's just a natural response because people tell jokes way more often than sad things. I remember sitting in a college glass this happened and the girl sitting next to me moved to a different part of the room ever since that day. 😐

[Fred_Cook]

Lol I've laughed at a funeral when i was a kid

[red324]

Probably could have explained myself to her cause I think she had the hots for me and she was a cute little thing, but I really didn't know how to explain it without it coming off weird. I guess the explanation I have here was probably the best one ever. That was years ago though.

[Secret6620]

I've wondered this multiple times. But honestly, it's different for everyone and depends on the situation.

[Fred_Cook]

Thanks :) yeah sometimes crying is better

[Secret6620]

I agree! Sometimes I just need to let it out, take a nap, then I feel better.

[Fred_Cook]

Exactly

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Time goes on…

You’re getting used to life without her…

Love needs to be fed everyday…

[Fred_Cook]

Ohh thanks. But I miss the feeling of intensely missing her

[Guy__]

Just an idea, do you take any herbs or did in the past? Such as ashwagandha and yellow ginger, they agonize 5ht1a, meaning after prolonged use you can have similar withdrawal symptoms to SSRI. If you took medications I think you wouldn't even post this questions, but just so you know, herbs have side effects too. In this case acute low dose cyproheptadine administration is said to help, even look at science on pubmed if you want. I'm not saying this is your case though.

[Guy__]

Try a very very intense workout, it makes me more alive.

[captain_voidwalker]

Not realy. I learned long ago that crying dosen't fix or resolve anything and it's a waste of energy

[Fred_Cook]

Thanks bud. That's right

[Phoenix98]

I just process things differently for better or for worse my own experiences, trauma, and the like have forged me to be a certain way, other then how I used to be. I had to harden myself among other things.

It's just the way I am now.

[rini02]

I think your mind has got used to the fact that you won't meet her for months. Otherwise it might be that this time you were too sad that your tears dried up.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I hate to say this, you grew to harden up over time, so now it's nothing new and for you to cry doesn't matter if you do it or not, No offense but this happens with us.

[NottMPortant]

Haven't cried for around 7 years intil major breakdown, after the therapy i can cry again
Even the death of my beloved grandma didn't make me cry before, so i think it was impossible

[MrJMM]

Because crying to me it's just physically painful but I don't have control if I don't cry so... Blame my mind.

[Sketti2021]

You are getting used to it

[Fred_Cook]

Thanks :) but i miss that feeling

[In_Trance]

What help do you want?

[Fred_Cook]

Why I was not as sad as I used to be?

[In_Trance]

Because you're not a child anymore

[Fred_Cook]

Thanks bud

[sheikalana]

Cuz I'm heartless.