Do you ever cry a lot about something and then become emotionally distant afterwards?

[xJayleenx]

Yesterday I was crying a lot because I was tired of having the same life I wanted to move in with my boyfriend of two years and I was tired of having to part ways after being intimate. Today I found myself not talking much to my boyfriend at all and just not having the same energy to text or anything anymore I’ve been distancing myself and he’s noticing I guess it might be because I feel like I’m the only one who cares about this and like the person that is loving harder I do not know how to explain this to him though since he’s asking me what’s wrong. Maybe I’ve just become emotionally numb I also got disappointed a bit yesterday by him.

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+1 y

He does want to marry me but like in two years or less but I do not want to wait that long tbh we’ve already been together for 2 years

[Andres77]

Roller coaster of love and emotions and hormones.
It's all real, it's all relevant.
You DO pour a lot into your relationships and when others don't it's painful.
It's part of growing up, dear.
You're doing it all right.
Love hurts... but you're doing your part well.
I'm sorry it hurts.
You're going to be ok.

[OddBeMe]

I do actually. Not crying per se. Only ever cried once when I put my childhood dog down. Like Niagara.

But I get crazy emotional watching dog recuse videos and then get standoffish. Like my emotion meter broke and I need to recharge.

[LovingLoverReturned]

I understand how you feel but often times feelings are not reasonable.

How old is your boyfriend? Does he rent? What is his financial status or goals?
Does he already have the home that you two will live in, do you know where? There is a kit to consider before marriage

When a guy marries you he wants to make sure he has everything secure. Weddings can be expensive , rings can be expensive, etc.
Often times the man has more responsibility to bear than the woman.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Perhaps the feeling you want to explain to give is that you are "anxious for you two to live together"...

Another feeling is you are also confused about why you have to wait so long. But in my first response you would have seen the questions I asked that you can also wonder about so you can understand the situation better.

[LovingLoverReturned]

I don't get why specifically after intimacy. Maybe if you want you can ask to do go on a date that is fun and relaxed outside a buildings?

It is okay that you want want marry sooner. Pressures from inside the home can be an influence. But always try to remember it is not your boyfriend's fault for that. Don't misdirect blame.
You would have to find means to keep yourself distracted.
But definitely communicate to your boyfriend reasons for your feelings. It might not actually be about him. It may be more internal.

[t-8900]

What's your expectation As far as the relationship and what you want and what you expect? You need to seriously ask these things. What have you two talked about and what has he said in response? You are 20 ATM so you don't need to rush if both of you aren't ready to go the next step yet. I understand he was your first but at the same time it can't be the reason to cement the relationship if you are not getting what you want and he's not getting what he wants or is still unsure.

[UniquelyBasic]

Sometimes but its never for a long time though and it depends what I was sad about.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm sorry your day was bad I know how these days can be trust me

[888theGreat]

you are not a patient person, he is more

[xJayleenx]

Well I've been going through stuff with my mom at home and I've been wanting to move out for years

[Deku2009]

Don’t keep him In the dark Jayleen

[IsoUser]

I rarely if ever cry a lot or smile lol