Why don’t guys ever communicate when they have lost interest with me?

Anonymous

I have wracked my brain for an explanation and asked my friends and family -even my coworkers if they might notice something off putting about me. What I have heard instead is that my good looks is a plus and that I also have a good personality. But most of all, when I confront a man who ditched me to give me an explaination they ALWAYS reply with “there was no problem.” It has never failed. It’s always they were busy or they had a lot going on which is cool because I can take a hint. But when I directly give a man an out (which I have done more than once) it always goes something like this:

I acknowledge the fact that the relationship is -for one reason or another-failing to work and I then give the man a clear indication that I am willing to excuse the failure of the relationship so long as he is willing to address the fact that he is prepared to end said relationship at this time. And all I have EVER gotten were excuses. I even had a man cry and beg me not to end things only to later ghost me. I have had men tell me “it’s no issue I want to keep talking I like you I don’t want to end things” and a variety of other things only to later ghost. And I don’t understand why they won’t just admit that they don’t want the relationship when I present them with an opportunity to kindly end the relationship. I remember once I even told my ex that I would always love him but for my peace of mind I had to end things because I could sense his disinterest and disingenuous behavior and he went on to beg for a second chance which he subsequently blew in a short time. Here is an example.

Why don’t guys ever communicate when they have lost interest with me?

The voice message that he sent was him saying “there are no issues. I’m still on the same page. I’ve been genuinely busy. It’s all in your head.” Etc. And then over the next few days he just didn’t text back. So wtf

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Also with every man I have dated half the time my friends validate my uncertainty and tell me that it seemed like the guy really liked me and just lost interest because I work too much. My friend told me that my work schedule has impacted many of my relationships because I sacrifice quality time for sleep/rest after long hours at work or I just tend to overwork and miss special events. I get it that this may cause issues but I still can’t wrap my mind around why men never just SAY that.
Why don’t guys ever communicate when they have lost interest with me?
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