Should I not talk to him about my ex of 15 years?

[Robertsgirl]

I just got out of a divorce of 13 years. We were together for 15 years. We have four kids together and he has moved out of state. I do not have many good things to say about him and I find myself venting about new stupid shit he has said lately to my boyfriend. For example him telling me my money struggles are not his problem because he pays no support or gives any help to take care of his kids unless he is in town visiting once every month or two. How would a guy feel about this? He vents to me about his ex wives and the shit she had put him through or puts him through. I will also tell him about the abuse he had put me and my reasons for leaving him. Just want to make sure this isn’t a turn off and will push him away.

[bamesjond0069]

Usually bad talking an ex is a huge red flag. Either 1 you're salty and not over him or 2 you pick shitty men and put up with shitty men for 15 years... basically playing victim and being a door mat. Which one do you think will make him appreciate you more? Oh brother.

Personally every single girl I've ever was in a relationship with was actually an awesome person. Super proud of them and if i had accidentally ended up with any of them say i had a kid unexpected id be with them and happy, zero doubt about it. Most are now in their first marriage with kids.

[TrueConfection]

Get a counselor to visit once a week and vent to instead. Eventually, your relationship will turn toxic if you two continue this way.

[Anonymous]

Why the rush?