I think my fiancé finds his ex’s body more attractive than mine, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

My fiance and I somehow got on the topic of his ex, and his friend mentioned that she was pretty, and he denied that strongly, then his friend said she had a nice body, and my fiance just looked away from me. I know my body is nothing like hers, because she is shaped like a model and it’s always made me feel insecure… but now I feel just sad… he probably thinks his ex’s body is more pretty than mine and I don’t know what to do. Any ideas?

[kylee2437]

I see lack of respect from your boyfriends friend. He shouldn’t be mentioning your boyfriends exes around you. That’s not an inappropriate convo. Secondly , your insecurity is a huge issue. A nice body does not keep a man around. Your issue is you think your boyfriend will go back to her just because she has a nice body and if that’s the case, is he really a good guy to keep around?

[kylee2437]

Not an appropriate **

[Asker]

Thank you… yes I wish that the conversation hadn’t happened, haha I really shouldn’t have stayed to listen. I don’t think he’ll leave me for her at all. I think I’m just worried that he doesn’t like my body as much, and is disappointed in it. I like my body, and honestly before this happened I didn’t feel insecure…

[Asker]

I guess I just don’t know how to shake this feeling… like I’m suddenly not good enough

[kylee2437]

@asker you need to work on your confidence. Your boyfriends perception of your body shouldn’t be how you view your body, even if he thinks highly of it (which I’m sure he does) self love is 100% important because once you start to view yourself based on opinions from others that’s when things get destructive

[Asker]

Thanks! You are right :)

[likelyOK]

I would be more bothered if he said something but since he has never said anything to make you uncomfortable I would not worry

[Chris7094]

His friend is an asshole. I think your fiance didn't know what he was supposed to say. It's like if one of your friends started talking about one of your exes in front of your fiance, and she mentioned that he had a huge dick. Obviously she's trying to start trouble and you would probably be speechless, just hoping your friend would shut up.

[Danny_dan92]

Your dude’s friend is a jackass honestly. And it seems like your dude if anything was refraining from beating tf out of his friend. Shitty friend that can’t mind their own business

[AviatorTom]

Forget about his ex and trying to compare yourself to her. He has you now, not his ex, and that's what's really important.

[Anonymous]

go to the gym and start getting in shape, and wear leggings and tight clothing that shows off your body to get guys to check you out.

Also don't feel sad because you are beautiful and I'm sure he loves you very much :)