Girlfriend has me by heart but side chick has me by ****?

[Anonymous]

I love my girlfriend, she’s amazing, but I always had my doubts a bit since she was still living with her baby daddy and I heard things and saw things. Overall I love her. I have this other girl who is also very great, the thing is I want to let her go now since I have a girlfriend but damn the sex is so good. She makes me tingle all over and it’s hard to stay away. I’ve tried so many times to let her go but she’s addictive. I want to be a good boyfriend and change but it’s difficult when you have such an amazing sexual connection with someone like that. Sex with my girlfriend is great too but it’s not mind blowing (I sound like a dick, I know). What should I do to change and ways on how I can just stick to my girlfriend. My side doesn’t know I’m taken.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Honestly dude... just let it play out. Eventually, someone is going to figure out something and the whole situation will fall into place. Girlfriend is living with the baby daddy still? Yeah I'm sure you've heard and seen some things. Staying with her sounds like a cuckold situation for you and you'll end up stuck with a kid that's not even yours in the long run... money. I almost wished you said more about that situation because I'm left wondering what she's using you for... is it money? Don't tell me you are babysitting while she goes to work!

Go with the side chick. Or just let it play out until the drama unfolds. Imagine the tables turned scenario, with you living with your baby's Mama... what kind of girl is going for that? Imagine you're letting things be seen and heard that you'd rather her not find out about... would you really blame her for finding a side man herself? It's used goods versus something that could actually be yours. You'll always come last after the kid.

[Asker]

I was thinking to that exactly that at first. One of them is bound to find out about the other if I do end up keeping both but dude that’s what I don’t want to do. I’m trying to better myself. I want to have a family some day. Maybe even in the upcoming years. I just don’t know where I stand or what’s going on with me and the other girl I kept on the side. I know that it’s a sexual addiction but I also feel like I can be myself around her and she knows my fucked up life but she stays and I can tell she’s trying for me. I keep making an excuse that I’m not ready for a relationship right now and she buys it. That itself says how fucked up I am, which I don’t want to be now. I’ve been fucked over by a girl I loved before and I’m just split between the two. I know I love my girlfriend but I just don’t know what the hell is going on with my feeling about the other girl. I just can’t let her go or forget about her. I tried letting her go 4 times and each time I end up crawling back.

[D_Bone_Steak]

One chick already has a family and it's with the kid from a man she's still living with. Do you want to try and make a family with that? Or take a look at a chick that's trying for you, allows some of your bullshit, and that you're not already feeling like the sex is mundane with. I don't know how old you are but realize these chicks have motivations of their own, analyze their motives, and don't just think from your own position. I mean think about yourself but truly understand what they're up to. The married one living with the baby daddy... money is a motive there! Why would she be living with the guy unless he provides money, a place, or at least babysitting duties which money would have to buy? Think about it. Chances are she's had her fun, has a kid now, and she's not going to want any fun with you because it's time to be serious now and think about the kid... his kid and hers. You'll always come last after that.

What's the side chick's motivations? She needs child care and a place to stay? Sex isn't just a chore for her? Still willing to have fun without serious kid stuff coming up all the time? Like seriously my dude, even if she's (the side chick) a slut and will probably end up stepping out on you... it would be better played that a chick with a kid still living with the babies daddy where you hear and see shit happening... that could possibly step out on you just as well down the road. Mundane sex over a chick that's actually all yours and gives you the tingles still? Shouldn't that be a no brainer?

[Asker]

I get where you coming from. My side isn’t even a slut either, I just never felt like I loved her and I felt like I genuinely love my girlfriend. That’s the thing. That’s why I’m stuck

[Guy13]

Sometimes the heart ❤️ wants what it wants and it is impossible to live in peace until the heart has what it wants. I have no idea how to outsmart or out maneuver the heart.

[Avicenna]

This is totally dysfunctional. Leave the woman still living her baby daddy and be faithful to the other one.

[Asker]

I love the only with the baby daddy though. That’s my girlfriend and I honestly can see myself having a family with her, from the first day I met her

[Avicenna]

OK, I’m, Are they truly mo longer together? There’s no way I’d date. A woman in that situation.

[Avicenna]

You don’t become an equal party in situations with single moms. You’re just there for them because you’re providing donethibg useful and their True loyalties lie elsewhere

[driven159]

sex it not the most important thing

[spartan55]

Call Jerry Springer

[In_Trance]

Good times