If you rejected someone and they barely came online anymore what would you think they are doing/feeling?

[Anonymous]

[globetrotter22]

If you reject someone (respectfully) than they should bow out gracefully. If they run into you in public maybe have a quick hello. But why would they keep on talking to you? Their idiots to waste their time and attention on you at that point. They can be friendly but not friends.

I ask a girl on a date at my local CF gym about 2 months ago. She smiled and politely told me she had a boyfriend. I said I respected that and would never ask again.

We did get in 4-5 conversations before I took a chance. But now when I see her I just give a quick hello and go about my business. I can tell she’s hoping I will keep talking to her. But why? To just “be friends”. Give her attention to boost her ego? Hell no.

She did the right thing being honest with me. I respect that. But just like a woman can reject a relationship a man can reject a friendship. That doesn’t mean he should be rude. But if he’s smart he won’t waste his time.

[DaveJord]

I have never had this issue, because if I rejected them it is for a reason. If I cared enough to keep tabs on them then I probably would not of rejected them to begin with.

[Asker]

What if you ignored them so they would pay more attention and it backfired. Then what?

[DaveJord]

Yeah for me playing games for attention is a huge red flag. If I am interest I let it be known and I do not play games. I show and display my interest and if I do not feel I am getting what I am looking for in return then I end it. But I do not play games, and if I did think I had do something like that then that would mean I am not getting what I wanted out the relationship I would find some else.

If I thought she was ignoring me on purpose then I move on, if she comes back later then I would consider it... but a women that plays games like that is a huge red flag and I avoid relationships with people like that.

Just tell them how you feel and what you like an appreciate them doing for you, if they care they will do those things and if they don't or are unwilling to do those things them move on. Don't play games, that only leads to manipulation games that can go back and forth and usually end with neither of you ever being happy.

Relationships are transactional, which means there is a give and take that goes on between the both of you. When you ignore someone on purpose that you saying I am unwilling to give anything until I feel you have worked hard enough to earn it. So you are giving nothing and expecting them to sacrifice something more to earn your respect.

So if he in not active anymore on the website, then I would think he found someone else or something more productive and wasting his time being ignored.

[DaveJord]

* instead of wasting his time being ignored.

[DaveJord]

I have had a lot of success online dating... so with meeting women on line... there is a small window of opportunity where you can really progress the relationship. But its a numbers game you can't get caught spinning your wheels on one women, because there are many more out there that might given you a better chance for success.

When two people meet and they are interested they make things as easy as possible to be together and work things out, not harder. And I am not talking about sex or just hooking up either.

[boggboss]

wouldn't keep looking into them if I rejected them

[Asker]

What if you ignored them so they would pay more attention and it backfired. Then what?

[Wise4myage]

I hope they are alright.