Boyfriend cheated texted another girl but this second time I am pregnant what should I do?

[Saggirl14]

been with my boyfriend for about a year but dating since 202 of October the first time I caught him texting another girl his excuse was he thought I was cheating so he let his insecurities get to him so he did it revenge. Truth is I never cheated on him. So I forgave him that first time and asked we exchange phone passwords to feel more reassurance. 7 months later he travels for the first time for work at this point I am 5 months pregnant I’m thinking we’re so connected he shows me affection and love tells me he wants to marry me and can’t wait to start our new family I believe him and recently I see a text saying hi it’s Vanessa from capitol hardware he tried to play it off like he doesn’t know who that could be acting clueless says he has no idea who she is then starts to spit it out saying okay I did go to that store out there and she helped me and I’m stupid I gave her my number. He has apologized saying this will never happen again he saying to please find it in my heart to forgive him for our son to have a family and raise him together. He keeps saying he always ruins good things by doing things like this with his past. He’s begging to give him a last third chance. I am so heartbroken because of he has the balls to do this while I am pregnant yet tells me he is in love with me and he’s still attracted to me why do this? That scared me how he’s capable of doing something disrespectful. Should I break up with him or give him a chance. I need advice

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By the way he has a 4 years daughter and it comes with baby drama till this day. That he claims she was an accident. And I accepted him with all that.

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4 year old daughter with baby mom drama

[ohsheeT]

Well you better accept it right now that you're going to be on your own and you need to start preparing for that I guarantee you it's a waste of time to even have him in your life he's not going to be there for you or his child and if he's going to be let him do it on his own let it be because he wants to do it not because he's forced into doing it let him prove to you who he is this right here will show you what he's made out of either he's going to take responsibility and be the man that he's supposed to be or he's going to keep fucking up and fucking other girls all his life this won't be his last child that's for sure he just proved to you exactly who he is and I hope to God that you don't want him back because it's just going to be a big headache for you you're not supposed to argue in force or try to force somebody into being with you you want the person to be with you because he wants to be with you no matter what you are very beautiful girl and that guy is waiting for you believe me let's start preparing for you and your baby because that's your new life now it changes everything

[ohsheeT]

Here's the thing is down deep you already know what he's going to do you already thought about it you know exactly what he's going to do so with the insane that that's it's all up to you it's nobody else's decision but yours I think you're absolutely beautiful you could get any guy that you wanted and I think this guy's just going to bring you down but that's my opinion and just because I think something doesn't mean that I'm right it's your heart it's your break it's your experience you're going to play it whichever way you think it is going to happen or is the best way to play it for me I would walk away but it's your choice not mine

[Finchie40]

Break up with him , you only been with him a year and you are already pregnant by him and you already busted him cheating twice? He doesn’t love you , he likes the convenience of you , Value yourself worth and realize you deserve way better than this , this fucker is playing you in every direction , Just because you have a baby by him doesn’t mean you have to be with him , he is already proven that he is still going to cheat on you and doesn’t value you , If he wants to be part of the babies life allow him but don’t be with him, he is a selfish piece of shit. I guarantee he cheated on you more that what you busted him on, A Cheater always blames the other for their actions , because a cheater can’t admit to themselves that they are a piece of shit , Do yourself a favor and end it with this guy , he is a waste of time.

[Finchie40]

Sounds like you got yourself a Narcissistic man , RUN!!!

[melanieeeB]

This one is really tricky, in the end you should make a decision that you're 100% staying behind it.
I guess you should first figure out if you could even trust him again, if you're willing to forgive him, what you want for your child and and and. I think a pro and corntra list might help or journalig or just keep talking to your friends and family and figure out through their opinions, what is YOUR opinion about it. What is the right decision for YOU, with what decision do YOU feel comfortable?

Also don't just leave cause some strangers on the internet heard one incident of your whole relationship. Figure it out.

Personally I don't know what I would do, I know I wouldn't have continue the relationship from the 1st incident on but well now it's the 3rd with a baby following, I guess I would give him one last chance but make it so damn clear that he is going do lose his head if he ever even thinks about anything else. Cause like I wouldn't want my baby to grow up without a father but it's really tricky. I'm sorry that you have this burden on you right now 🙏🏼

[SueShe]

You have to put your foot down and you may give him a conditional 3rd. chance. Tell him that you and him should go to counseling.

If he sees that you are serious about this issue, he may agree with this last chance. But you have to make it very clear to him that there will not be a 4th. chance and that if he gets caught one more time, you will do everything in your powers to get as much as you legally can out of him to support the unborn child.

Check with your lawyer what kind of document is needed for such a procedure. Perhaps that if he realizes that you are to be taken seriously, he will act upon it. You were lenient enough and you have to think of yourself and your baby first. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Leave!!! You already have him 2 chances, he will continue to do it if you give him a third cause he knows it. Sad that you’re going to be a single parent for a while but you need to leave. None of this bs either w maybe once the baby is born he will change for sure. Leave. How much worse will you feel in 2-3 years when he does this again?

[Opinion Owner]

Leave!!!

[Zolly99999]

Wow... thats do wrong.. I'm sorry he did this to you.. but unfortunately he is not going to stop. He will keep doing it because you keep forgiving him. You have 2 choices.. stay with him knowing he will always be cheating on you or break up with him..

I would to the latter.

[jshm2]

You have a terrible taste in guys if this is what you're choosing to breed with.

But what is done is done. No point sticking around, and put yourself on the single mother pile. Maybe get him for some child support if possible.

[Staximus]

Why the fuck would you let a shit bag like that get you pregnant in the first place? You like getting cheated on or something? You like to torture yourself by making poor life decisions? Wake the fuck up.

[LazerBean]

Leave, and next time don't give a cheater a second chance.

[Anonymous]

You must be brave to consider giving him another chance. I could never do it.

[savagewolf22]

She doesn't have any other options babe... she is pregnant of his child. I dunno if she is working or not. If not than she need financial support... So I don't think she has any other options either.

[Anonymous]

Suck him dry before he walks out the door.

[vald9inches]

Cheat on him