nah nah I will still fight 🥊 but I choose my battles wisely now. Not losing my cool for irrelevance. 😜
How about you?
(not only relationship wise, anyone who dares to fight you)
I let it go. If I can retreat I will leave. I do my best to avoid passive-aggressive comments and simply walk away. Just don't get in my path as I attempt to retreat. If you do, well, you might have trouble walking for a while.
If someone starts beef, you make a good steak.
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I always let it go, but I honestly HATE doing it. I used to do that in high school. I'd have to explain a whole lot beforehand, but the short version is, I grew up in a troubled environment, in addition to having an abusive mother, and used to be legitimately dangerous.
Some kid threatened me on Friday, as I was getting on the bus (he didn't board), and I literally spent the whole weekend plotting how I was going to f*cking kill him. I barely mean that as hyperbole, either. On Monday morning, a school officer who knew me, saw "the expression" in my eyes, as I was heading to gym class to smash this f*cker's head through a window and spill as much of his blood as possible without needing a weapon. He stopped me, and I flat-out told him when I intended to do. This lead to an intervention/mediation, between me, the officers, and the kid. I told them how he threatened my life and the only way I could restore my manhood was to permanently injure and/or off this kid. It's like a prison mentality thing, for those who don't get it. Kill or be killed. Across the room, the kid was all like "Damn, I didn't think it was that serious." The officers had me go to mental counseling (the first year of 14 of 'em) to seek psychological help, and I spent the rest of the school year, plus senior year, there.
Today, I'm much better, but I still take it as a great sign of weakness to back down from another man. Like, someone has power over me and I'm afraid of them or something. I know that just proving my physical dominance over them and breaking their face or smashing a few bones would prove to everyone who was the "alpha male" amongst us, but you know... The whole "we live in a society" thing. Where all that is illegal.
My point is, even though I'm willing to "take the high road" and drop beef, it's never satisfying and I still feel like I lost the fight.
"Society" says you shouldn't break a guy's vertebrae or use shards of glass on him when he threatens your life, and I obey because of that. But I doubt too many people know how weakening it feels to not put a loud asshole in their place when you easily could and everyone else thinks you're a pussy or weak when you don't. And yeah, I know what it says in The Art of War: "Appear weak when you are strong. Appear strong when you are weak." But people already assume I'm weak based on my height and demeanor. They always have. That's why it's hard for me to "take the high road" because they have no f*cking idea how un-weak I could get, in a fight.
Sorry for ranting.
If it's a heated argument with my S/O, I'll try to be the voice of reason and keep calm and let her cool off and rethink her words. Eventually, she'll come around and apologize, and if not, my demeanor towards her will change accordingly as well. I may value her but I also have my own self respect.
As for someone else, it depends who it is, how much they're riling me up and where our relationship stands at that point. If it's a friend, I'll try my best to keep calm and not be the one who ends up looking like the asshole in the situation. Same goes for a stranger and there's a misunderstanding.
But if it's someone I dislike and actually have beef with, I don't say this lightly but I'll make them regret trying to start beef with me especially if we have history together because as petty, cruel or heartless as it may sound, I WILL retaliate. My code is pretty simple. If you stay out of my way, I'll stay out of yours. But if you continue to irritate and aggravate me, then I guess it's just a sign for me to engage. At that point, I'm just waiting for an opening for them to just hit me so I have a reason to beat them up in self defense. It's like they say, you don't mess with the silent types.
Damn it's Spicy, I like it lmao. I used to fight a lot of people when I was younger (I would never start anything first, they would lol) hell I would even fight boys in my batch lmao once I fought 4-5 boys all alone damn that shit was scary asf but I pulled through and broke one of those losers finger lmao if someone wants to go at me then I'm ready no matter what lol I never back down nor am I afraid of anyone. My friends call me 'chill' tho and mind you I never like starting fights or drama with anyone. I'm too cool for that lmao
It depends on my connection to them. If it’s some stranger then I ignore it and keep it pushing. If it’s a friend, relative or even a nasty coworker, I confront them but I do it in a way where there’s a chance for healthy dialogue to blossom. I will give them a chance to express their perspective if it’s done respectfully. I know how to find a peaceful resolution with people if the opportunity is there
If it’s an altercation that becomes physical then that’s a whole different conversation 🤣
Generally, walk away. Worked to hard on my mental health and becoming a better person to let them change that. Specifically, to the meme in the post lol "Thinking... that's a new one for you" and THEN walk away. I've found that owning my mistakes and being willing to just walk away tends to take the wind out of peoples' sails.
All of this is just when it's verbal. If it becomes physical all bets are off and I don't fight fair so things will get broken, bitten, stabbed, whatever is needed. But I will NEVER be the aggressor. Your mind is the much more powerful weapon.
u depends...
in person, it is very very rare that someone starts shit with me but it still happens, and when it has happened I just cut it off and go on my way, lol... I really don't like to engage in nonsense
if they leave me no choice well, they will be handled accordingly
online though, which would be G@G, it also depends... but I usually just troll them back because most of the times they're just being troll themselves or they are people that are very VERY bitter and angry about themselves or something else that is not me, lol...
I pick my fights. But more things are taken into consideration now than ever.
I have already beaten up 2 kids in school. Both of them with lots of face damage, and teeth damage. 2 teeth came out at the same time. And the former one required lots of money for his spectacles and face damage. Broken nose and all.
I can count the amount of physical altercations I’ve had with people on one hand.
I used to be quite hot headed and prone to anger issues. These days though I’m one of the most chill, laid back and relaxed guys around. So the odds that’d there be beef between me and someone else is pretty low.
about the only times I’ll hurt someone these days is if you repeatedly insult my friends, family or partner, put your hands on them or hurt them.
if you do those kinds of things you’ll bring out the old me and you don’t want that.
Being raised in an inner city neighborhood (Kensington, Philly) I’m used to beefing with people. The beef there frequently results in dying, friends getting killed, etc. I got grazed in the chest, my boy got shot in the face. I live in the suburbs now, and there’s a bunch of wanna be hood high schoolers. They vandalized this neighborhood, keyed my mom’s car and said come out we’ll beat your ass. I came out and every single one of them folded. I don’t got picks. I got my ass beat a few times, because I don’t fight only people I know I’ll win against.
People don't typically start beefs with me. The few that do I'm pretty good at determining why. And knowing how to squash it. But never take my niceness for softness.
If someone ever puffed up there chest at me and uttered "that's what a thought" like you posted I'd probably laugh. And not in a nervous way. Then I would probably say "You want to prove you're tougher than me, alright man. You win man, you're the man". I don't want to fight anyone. And will do anything to avoid a fight (c'mon were adults not kids) But anyone who takes a swing at me and thinks I'm going to run away is sorely mistaken.
u There are only two resasons that I have ever, or will ever, get into a physical altercation with someone.
1) Self defense
2) In defense of someone else
Never because someone's being a lippy asshole. I'll just walk away, and if they say something about it, that says more about them, than it does about me.
I'm not going to get provoked into being the aggressor, just because someone is running their mouth.
If some one starts running their mouth generally I'll tell them to get lost. If their start threatening me I generally say something like you're too much of a pussy to do anything, all you do is run your mouth like a woman. If they keep up the bullshit, I'm generally like do something. I'll be calm the entire time while they are losing their shit. Most of the time they cower and run away like a bitch. If they are actually dumb enough to swing on me, I will pick them up and throw their head into the concrete and then choke them out or smash their head in repeatedly until they go unconscious.
I just try to determine what the outcome i think will be if i want to stay and fight or not. if i see some benefit in anyway yeah im fightin! for instance seeing someone harass someone in front of me. i will fight that fucker!
Otherwise if i see they're just talking smack for no reason other than that i don't give them the time of day
Fighting days are over, had plenty of gang fights in my younger teen days.
Still know a few people that can make people disappear, but in regards to temper - it's something I've never really had.
Don't really hold to the "beef" ideal. - either sort it, or forget it.
I will likely say something silly and vague and walk away, leaving them to say: "Huh?"
I also carry one of these to persuade them if they want hand to hand.
https://defenseshopper.com/barbarian-9-000-000-stun-baton-flashlight/?msclkid=eaa18489b44e1f4572b5e67da0495c1b
I am really afraid to start a fight with somebody. A fight is not like you see on TV. A lot of times one guy ends up dead and the other guy goes to jail. I would not fight over something stupid. The last time I got in a fight it was because a guy insulted my best friend's wife. He was working when it happened but I had to taker care of it myself.
Vast majority of the time I just let it go. I've learned to choose my battles in life. The only way I will fight back is when their actions put myself, my career or loved ones in real harm.
When I do have to fight back, I thoroughly research the person and then destroy their credibility and ability to ever attack someone else in a similar manner again. It is funny the dirt someone's closest circle will offer if the price is right.
Depends on what the beef is about. I prefer not to fight and I would rather talk through things or grill the steak if you will. Sometimes people just don't want to talk or understand logic. Then I can hold my own. When it comes to protecting my family or friends I can be very quick and calmly act defensively. Hence my family is all involved in emergency managment.
These days I ignore a lot cause I have too, but people don't call me out they know better. The way my demeanor is people think twice but I keep it professional these days but people feel the energy, they stare i mad dogg back and it's nothing. But back in the day it was crackin I was first to swing everytime.
And if we talking online, these virtual knuckles hurt 👊
Nah. I DO know that if they throw the first punch, I have the right to defend myself by wounding them non-lethally. Although, I DO also keep something like incriminating information in my back pocket as an ace card.
"You're dead!"
(*Secretly: "Oh, like that pedestrian you hit and killed 5 years ago and sped away from? I'm VERY sure the police would like to know about that."*)
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