nah nah I will still fight š„ but I choose my battles wisely now. Not losing my cool for irrelevance. š
How about you?
(not only relationship wise, anyone who dares to fight you)
I let it go. If I can retreat I will leave. I do my best to avoid passive-aggressive comments and simply walk away. Just don't get in my path as I attempt to retreat. If you do, well, you might have trouble walking for a while.
If someone starts beef, you make a good steak.
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I always let it go, but I honestly HATE doing it. I used to do that in high school. I'd have to explain a whole lot beforehand, but the short version is, I grew up in a troubled environment, in addition to having an abusive mother, and used to be legitimately dangerous.
Some kid threatened me on Friday, as I was getting on the bus (he didn't board), and I literally spent the whole weekend plotting how I was going to f*cking kill him. I barely mean that as hyperbole, either. On Monday morning, a school officer who knew me, saw "the expression" in my eyes, as I was heading to gym class to smash this f*cker's head through a window and spill as much of his blood as possible without needing a weapon. He stopped me, and I flat-out told him when I intended to do. This lead to an intervention/mediation, between me, the officers, and the kid. I told them how he threatened my life and the only way I could restore my manhood was to permanently injure and/or off this kid. It's like a prison mentality thing, for those who don't get it. Kill or be killed. Across the room, the kid was all like "Damn, I didn't think it was that serious." The officers had me go to mental counseling (the first year of 14 of 'em) to seek psychological help, and I spent the rest of the school year, plus senior year, there.
Today, I'm much better, but I still take it as a great sign of weakness to back down from another man. Like, someone has power over me and I'm afraid of them or something. I know that just proving my physical dominance over them and breaking their face or smashing a few bones would prove to everyone who was the "alpha male" amongst us, but you know... The whole "we live in a society" thing. Where all that is illegal.
My point is, even though I'm willing to "take the high road" and drop beef, it's never satisfying and I still feel like I lost the fight.
"Society" says you shouldn't break a guy's vertebrae or use shards of glass on him when he threatens your life, and I obey because of that. But I doubt too many people know how weakening it feels to not put a loud asshole in their place when you easily could and everyone else thinks you're a pussy or weak when you don't. And yeah, I know what it says in The Art of War: "Appear weak when you are strong. Appear strong when you are weak." But people already assume I'm weak based on my height and demeanor. They always have. That's why it's hard for me to "take the high road" because they have no f*cking idea how un-weak I could get, in a fight.
Sorry for ranting.
If it's a heated argument with my S/O, I'll try to be the voice of reason and keep calm and let her cool off and rethink her words. Eventually, she'll come around and apologize, and if not, my demeanor towards her will change accordingly as well. I may value her but I also have my own self respect.
As for someone else, it depends who it is, how much they're riling me up and where our relationship stands at that point. If it's a friend, I'll try my best to keep calm and not be the one who ends up looking like the asshole in the situation. Same goes for a stranger and there's a misunderstanding.
But if it's someone I dislike and actually have beef with, I don't say this lightly but I'll make them regret trying to start beef with me especially if we have history together because as petty, cruel or heartless as it may sound, I WILL retaliate. My code is pretty simple. If you stay out of my way, I'll stay out of yours. But if you continue to irritate and aggravate me, then I guess it's just a sign for me to engage. At that point, I'm just waiting for an opening for them to just hit me so I have a reason to beat them up in self defense. It's like they say, you don't mess with the silent types.
Damn it's Spicy, I like it lmao. I used to fight a lot of people when I was younger (I would never start anything first, they would lol) hell I would even fight boys in my batch lmao once I fought 4-5 boys all alone damn that shit was scary asf but I pulled through and broke one of those losers finger lmao if someone wants to go at me then I'm ready no matter what lol I never back down nor am I afraid of anyone. My friends call me 'chill' tho and mind you I never like starting fights or drama with anyone. I'm too cool for that lmao
damn we're too cool lmao
my life is pretty much worthless and boring asf without all the drama and the fights lol ngl the 'badass' songs hit diff lmao it's like I'm finally in some cool ass problematic movie š¤©
I like being the main character that has 'gone through a lot of shit' lmao
yeah I definitely don't fight everyone either lol
It depends on my connection to them. If itās some stranger then I ignore it and keep it pushing. If itās a friend, relative or even a nasty coworker, I confront them but I do it in a way where thereās a chance for healthy dialogue to blossom. I will give them a chance to express their perspective if itās done respectfully. I know how to find a peaceful resolution with people if the opportunity is there
If itās an altercation that becomes physical then thatās a whole different conversation 🤣
Generally, walk away. Worked to hard on my mental health and becoming a better person to let them change that. Specifically, to the meme in the post lol "Thinking... that's a new one for you" and THEN walk away. I've found that owning my mistakes and being willing to just walk away tends to take the wind out of peoples' sails.
All of this is just when it's verbal. If it becomes physical all bets are off and I don't fight fair so things will get broken, bitten, stabbed, whatever is needed. But I will NEVER be the aggressor. Your mind is the much more powerful weapon.
m depends...
in person, it is very very rare that someone starts shit with me but it still happens, and when it has happened I just cut it off and go on my way, lol... I really don't like to engage in nonsense
if they leave me no choice well, they will be handled accordingly
online though, which would be G@G, it also depends... but I usually just troll them back because most of the times they're just being troll themselves or they are people that are very VERY bitter and angry about themselves or something else that is not me, lol...
I pick my fights. But more things are taken into consideration now than ever.
I have already beaten up 2 kids in school. Both of them with lots of face damage, and teeth damage. 2 teeth came out at the same time. And the former one required lots of money for his spectacles and face damage. Broken nose and all.
At the moment I just let it go. Because, to be honest, I have my own problems that I really need to deal with. I really do not have time for anybody's childishness.
I can count the amount of physical altercations Iāve had with people on one hand.
I used to be quite hot headed and prone to anger issues. These days though Iām one of the most chill, laid back and relaxed guys around. So the odds thatād there be beef between me and someone else is pretty low.
about the only times Iāll hurt someone these days is if you repeatedly insult my friends, family or partner, put your hands on them or hurt them.
if you do those kinds of things youāll bring out the old me and you donāt want that.
Being raised in an inner city neighborhood (Kensington, Philly) Iām used to beefing with people. The beef there frequently results in dying, friends getting killed, etc. I got grazed in the chest, my boy got shot in the face. I live in the suburbs now, and thereās a bunch of wanna be hood high schoolers. They vandalized this neighborhood, keyed my momās car and said come out weāll beat your ass. I came out and every single one of them folded. I donāt got picks. I got my ass beat a few times, because I donāt fight only people I know Iāll win against.
People don't typically start beefs with me. The few that do I'm pretty good at determining why. And knowing how to squash it. But never take my niceness for softness.
If someone ever puffed up there chest at me and uttered "that's what a thought" like you posted I'd probably laugh. And not in a nervous way. Then I would probably say "You want to prove you're tougher than me, alright man. You win man, you're the man". I don't want to fight anyone. And will do anything to avoid a fight (c'mon were adults not kids) But anyone who takes a swing at me and thinks I'm going to run away is sorely mistaken.
There are only two resasons that I have ever, or will ever, get into a physical altercation with someone.
1) Self defense
2) In defense of someone else
Never because someone's being a lippy asshole. I'll just walk away, and if they say something about it, that says more about them, than it does about me.
I'm not going to get provoked into being the aggressor, just because someone is running their mouth.
If some one starts running their mouth generally I'll tell them to get lost. If their start threatening me I generally say something like you're too much of a pussy to do anything, all you do is run your mouth like a woman. If they keep up the bullshit, I'm generally like do something. I'll be calm the entire time while they are losing their shit. Most of the time they cower and run away like a bitch. If they are actually dumb enough to swing on me, I will pick them up and throw their head into the concrete and then choke them out or smash their head in repeatedly until they go unconscious.
I just try to determine what the outcome i think will be if i want to stay and fight or not. if i see some benefit in anyway yeah im fightin! for instance seeing someone harass someone in front of me. i will fight that fucker!
Otherwise if i see they're just talking smack for no reason other than that i don't give them the time of day
Fighting days are over, had plenty of gang fights in my younger teen days.
Still know a few people that can make people disappear, but in regards to temper - it's something I've never really had.
Don't really hold to the "beef" ideal. - either sort it, or forget it.
I am really afraid to start a fight with somebody. A fight is not like you see on TV. A lot of times one guy ends up dead and the other guy goes to jail. I would not fight over something stupid. The last time I got in a fight it was because a guy insulted my best friend's wife. He was working when it happened but I had to taker care of it myself.
I will likely say something silly and vague and walk away, leaving them to say: "Huh?"
I also carry one of these to persuade them if they want hand to hand.
https://defenseshopper.com/barbarian-9-000-000-stun-baton-flashlight/?msclkid=eaa18489b44e1f4572b5e67da0495c1b
Vast majority of the time I just let it go. I've learned to choose my battles in life. The only way I will fight back is when their actions put myself, my career or loved ones in real harm.
When I do have to fight back, I thoroughly research the person and then destroy their credibility and ability to ever attack someone else in a similar manner again. It is funny the dirt someone's closest circle will offer if the price is right.
Depends on what the beef is about. I prefer not to fight and I would rather talk through things or grill the steak if you will. Sometimes people just don't want to talk or understand logic. Then I can hold my own. When it comes to protecting my family or friends I can be very quick and calmly act defensively. Hence my family is all involved in emergency managment.
These days I ignore a lot cause I have too, but people don't call me out they know better. The way my demeanor is people think twice but I keep it professional these days but people feel the energy, they stare i mad dogg back and it's nothing. But back in the day it was crackin I was first to swing everytime.
And if we talking online, these virtual knuckles hurt 👊
Nah. I DO know that if they throw the first punch, I have the right to defend myself by wounding them non-lethally. Although, I DO also keep something like incriminating information in my back pocket as an ace card.
"You're dead!"
(*Secretly: "Oh, like that pedestrian you hit and killed 5 years ago and sped away from? I'm VERY sure the police would like to know about that."*)
I mostly don't care. I just see it as a waste of my time mostly from time to time j might now let it go though. I hit a point in my life a few years back where I realised I just don't have the energy to care about people starting beef. I struggle enough at times day to day.
Talk all you want. Say whatever you want. I donāt care. Put your hands on me and youāll regret living to see another day. I take my right to defend my life and livelihood very seriously.
If weāre talking verbally then totally because my linguistical skills are much better When I donāt have to worry about spelling and typos and looking like an idiot because I canāt spell and have a bunch of typos in my sausage thumbs
I'm a tall, smart and generally quiet. Everyone knows not to start beef with a quiet man.
Kinda depends on the beef but most of the time Iām probably gonna let it go. Like who has time for that shit anyway?
Iāve learned over and over to stand your ground from the get go. Letting it go always leads to long wars. Each and every time.
Well seeing as they could have a gun to my knife... i'm gonna pass and walk. I don't need to prove how bad I am, I'm already doing that by telling people who bother me to fuk off.
People don't start beef with me (outside of the internet anyway)
Not that I'm a big scary dude, but I do kinda look like I'll slit your throat for no reason and giggle, and no one fucks with crazy
I usually don't bother with them because it's always some irrelevant shit that they want to fight about and I don't like wasting my energy on irrelevant shit.
Ah so thats why your turned down the last guy who asked you out :P
I donāt physically fight anymore but I will argue to the death. To. The. Death
i don't have anyone beefing with me as far as i know
People are much too scared to start beef with me 💪😏
Oh god, youāre full of yourself.
@blissinanarchy1 or I was making a joke
@bigpauly Mightypauly.
@bigpauly I like you as you.
@bigpauly lol š¤š
Depends whether it's worth it or if I have the energy for it.
Depends on the circumstances. If some deranged street person insults me, I'm not going to waste my time going back at them. If it's about something important then I will stand my ground.
It depends on the person that's starting with me. If they're not worth it I'll just walk away. If someone throws the first punch, I make sure I throw the last.
I let it go until they put their hands on me then I go apeshit on them.
i plot there demise at a later time no but seriously xD, i usually am pretty laid back and let it go, but if i need to stand up and defend myself and my loved ones i'm against absolutely battering someone lol, just depends on circumstance i suppose.
I used to fight every dumb ass that wanted to fight, now I just laugh at them and tell them they're not worth it until they attack me 👍
You said it right, pick your battles. Iām fortunate that at work thereās a pretty professional environment so this pettiness doesnāt happen.
In the past, I've been told that I'm difficult, but as I grow older I'm learning to pick my battles; how to compromise and foster harmony. But if I'm crossed, watch out.
If someone punched you in the head you donāt drop down into a fetal-position for you to take all the hits.
- MY DAD
It really depends, I don't let people walk over me so if they try, will stick up for myself.
Usually just let it go, because you know the guys who try to act tough or even the liers out there will be the first ones to scream assault when shit goes down.
I only have fist fights if somebody throws the first punch in self defense
I usually get it all out in the dojo during sparring sessions
Me takes a lot to get mad but I will say your getting on my bad side
The best thing you can do is not take them seriously. Make a mockery out of them.
depends on what it's about and whether i care or not.
I tell them why they're wrong, and I leave it alone. No need to escalate after I've proven them wrong, right?
I have a really hard time controlling myself.
I walk away... I don't need to feed their Drama... they can yell and scream... I do NOT care...
On line I just laugh at it in real like I'm 6'5 272 pound I never get called out for anything
Depends. If they actively affect my life, I'll destroy them if needed. Random people, waste of time.
Fight. I love confrontation gets my blood flowing.
It depends on who, what and where but I'll rise to the occassion, yeah
I usually let them win. Then I follow them home, scout the place and break in at night. Tie them up. Beat āāem up. Rape any hot girls. Then rob them.
Nothing good comes from a physical fight
I give them the silence treatment.
Let it go. it is just not worth the agro.
I won't fistfight it will stand up for myself.
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