Is there to much for him to still need to learn for his age?

[Anonymous]

I’m 23 my boyfriend is 29 so times I just find myself Burt out from his lack of time management skills, lack of financial literacy / being able to manage his money properly so he doesn’t ask me to spot him every month, inability to create boundaries or verbalize himself, he just thinks I should know how he feels or what I’ve done wrong when a issue comes up, reacts instead of thinks about what I’m saying and reconsider his views on whatever it is we are discussing, is addicted to his phone. Sometimes I feel like our ages are reversed. I’ve tried to talk with him about this and it just isn’t something he thinks is a priority for him to work on. I love him and he has his good qualities but it’s just so frustrating and I don’t really know how long I can keep doing this, I was just curious if these are common problems to have as a man in your late 20s/early 30s and is it Lilly that my help is further enabling him? Any advice?

[Lionman95]

I don't know if it's world wide common but it's a problem of some guys growing up and I was one also of that kind for a long time. The problem is that many guys don't or didn't learn what it means to be a man at home. I switch to we now because to some extent I'm one of them. The problem many guys have is that there parents or their father don't challenge them and help them mature. He probably lived a long time on his parents budget and didn't have to take of himself and because his parents let him spend most time alone he didn't develop social skills. I think what his problem could be is that he doesn't have a real goal in life and is floating a life because he was allowed to live like that. I think your help is encouraging but try to not give him what he wants of you straight away like help him make plans on how to save his money and check back on him or come up with phone free ideas. The thing you can't change him unless he sees a necessity to change. If he's not willing to change you might need to make a decision for or against him.

[dreamstar72]

You should that a complete break from his, think of it as a six or seven weeks vacation. Tell him he needs to manage his responsibility, because he is an adult not a child and you are not his mother

[Sixgunsound]

Men on average tend to mature slower than women, but 29 is a bit excessive.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

Age means nothing. And an awareness on the things are almost worthless.