Is it better to get married or live single without any relationship forever?

[Anonymous]

Married life with a family

Single without any relationship, total alone forever

[SneakyPapaya]

I'm happily married, but prior to meeting my husband I was ready to fly solo for the rest of my life. You shouldn't live life with the idea of trying to hit the goal of being single forever or trying to force getting married. You should just live life in a way that brings you the most happiness. Do whatever feels right. And if you want to be married but don't want kids then do that. Society can shove it.

[Asker]

But there's a point upto which you can have the option & opportunity to meet someone... after a point/age you won't get or meet anyone even if you really need someone since you are totally lonely depressed and bored

[SneakyPapaya]

There really isn't. My mom met someone in her 50s that makes her happier than her short marriage in her 30s ever made her feel. And if you change your mind about kids later on after your parts are all dusty you can adopt. It's all about keeping an open mind. It may be more challenging, but you've got to build yourself up to the challenge.

[Vanidal]

Sometimes it's better to get married, sometimes it's better to stay single. I would not dare to finalize a decision across changing situations. It depends on how my situation is.
I personally want to get married. My vision of it with the right person is wholesome. Don't know if it will work, we'll see if there's anything that could develop after I found someone I care to get close with.
But I also found it nice and peaceful to live alone.

[Honest-Matt]

There's no option for living life and surrounding yourself with good people without being married or having kids. It's possible, you just need to accept that it's your actions, your responsibility to build and guide your life to where you want or wish it would go.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Get married when you're young, have your 4-6 kids, and live a regular family life. Not only because it's the way most people would normally be happy to go (few people actually want to die alone) but also, society literally depends on men and women who do. I think the 2020s will be proof of that.

[Asker]

4-6 kids? Whaaaat...
That's too much of responsibilities

[letuswaltzforthedead]

It's possible, especially if you plan for it. Having kids to begin with is a responsibility though, so I'm not sure what you mean by that.

[MikeInHawaii]

Do you want to live in a world with 16-24 billion people because everyone followed your advice?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

@MikeInHawaii frankly, yes and with more people. I doubt EVERYONE would have six kids but if the world suddenly began having a fertility rate of 5, we would reach 24 billion by 2069 (nice). I do think working on supporting and sustaining such an increase in population growth is important, don't get me wrong there, but so is having that growth in the first place.

[BlueScorpio]

@MikeInHawaii do you realize that the world isn't the size of a golf ball? It's a pretty big place and there's tons of open lands for everyone to be here. This whole overpopulation theory people keep pushing is insane and can lead to a mass genocide of people. Stop with this thinking. Plus people die every day, it's impossible for the whole world to ever become over populated. Certain places and cities are but that's not the whole world. The issue is people want to live cities and not rural areas. If we spread out you will see there is indeed tons of living space here on earth.

[7barbieringz]

Marriage is overrated and so are kids. Society makes people think that's the end goal of happiness, but literally how many people are married and miserable? The vast majority.

Psychology actually shows that single people are happier and live longer

[Asker]

But by single i mean actually single , no dating, no relationship, no casual or paid sex...
Not just staying unmarried but having a relationship, sex etc...

[7barbieringz]

Some people are happier yes, there's even asexuality which are people who have no sex or relationships.

My point is still valid.

Married people in general are unhappier than single people and same goes for people with kids.

Only way to be truly happy in life is to always put yourself and your wants first.

[BlueScorpio]

Family can bring happiness and balance to one's life. Having families is important, living a lonely life without family is hard and can be depressing. There plenty of people who lost and grew up without families and wish they had that experience.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Depends on the quality of your marriage.

If it's a shitty or mediocre marriage, then there are likely opportunities that are better when you're single.

If it's a peaceful or wonderful marriage than it's true you can probably accomplish a lot more with a team mate by your side.

[DEXTER_LIVES]

One thing I've found about having been married and raised a child, is that it's all a valid life experience. Even if it doesn't last forever it still teaches you a lot. My marriage is something I can look back at in my photo album and I feel a sense of accomplishment, (Pain, but also accomplishment). I have the rest of my life to be single if I choose, but if you do both, at least you never feel like you missed out.

[Fireguy17]

both have their advantages.
Being alone it gave me the freedom to come and go as I pleased.
A few days off meant I was on my bike headed to somewhere new.
With the right person is also nice.
Sharing things with someone special is also good.
It can depend on what is important to you, and who you are with.

[MountAverage]

Your two poll options make it seem like the only alternative to being single is being married with children. People are in committed relationships without being married and/or without having kids, you know? Or they do have kids but without being married.

So, what's best for YOU? Only you will know, obviously. Everyone needs to find out for themselves.

[Tina19]

Well there are pros and cons in both the status either single or married one will have to prioritize what is most important for them in life in which they won't be able to compromise and choose accordingly

[Gollum]

For guys it's better to live single. There is literally no beefit whatsoever for men to get married. Unless you want to part with half of your assets as well as pension.

[msc545]

this!

[Asker]

You are unmarried single all Ane without any casual sex or relationship?

[Gollum]

My status ins not the issue, and yes by the way. I'm single. Why enter in a contract where men are ultimately set up to fail? it's simply stupid.

[msc545]

Serious stupid. I know because it happened to me and I regret it still. Never again.

[FriendlyCanadianGuy]

Tried to get married, didn't work, much happier solo and playing the field then having a psycho or a partner

[Anonymous]

Why not something in between? A loving girlfriend to live with sounds perfect. No marriage and no kids means least burdens, money keeps being there and getting maximum joy out of life instead of being raped by life from whatever happens.

[Asker]

That would mean wanting all fun/sex/romance without responsibilities... hahah...
No that's no option.
Either choose marriage with kids... or being single without sex , casual relationship or being in company of any girl.
Then?

[Opinion Owner]

I think it's safe to say goodbye to relationships. Girls won't date anyone, who has no social media. GAG doesn't count for that matter.

[boggboss]

That would depend on the person and what he wanted from life

[Asker]

In general

[boggboss]

But there ain't a general standerd as things are changing most would say being without a partner would make someone lonely but many these days choose to be lonely

[msc545]

better to be lonely than to be in pain

[Asker]

@msc545 lonely doesn't always mean happiness and marriage doesn't always mean pain

[msc545]

Nothing is exclusive, but when it is more often than not it's bad enough.

[HighValue]

Being in an exclusive relationship and having kids while not legally married would be ideal.

[RandomGuy1032]

I'll choose to play the field forever. Fuck these whales, fuck giving them a family and fuck their entitlement💯

[Asker]

What do you mean

[dragoblack]

I'm literally living the second one. A life with no romance and/or intimacy causes major depression, and I'm dealing with it due to my insanely shit luck with it comes to romance.

[maximumpower]

Marriage was the absolute worst decision of my life.

[Asker]

Why? Divorce?

[msc545]

Mine too

[msc545]

Much better to be alone than to be married to any American woman. They will steal, lie, cheat, and wreck your life.

[MikeInHawaii]

I just wonder if foreign women are any better.

[msc545]

@MikeInHawaii Some are.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Marriage. Don't listen to the stupid and bitter men of this world and their worldly wisdom which is total 💩

[melanieeeB]

Whatever you want for yourself in your life

[Asker]

A generalized way?
Your thoughts?

[melanieeeB]

Yes, there is no better way, you have to decide what's best for you

[Chazmatazz269]

Marriage is a sucker’s bet for men.

[RobT312]

Personal preference

[Aerolyn]

Depends on your values.

[Iron_Man]

To get married

[Asker]

Why so

[SupremeWarlord]

married for life, that's just my decision

[Twalli]

Family =/= children