Would a man reject a sex with a girl because she’s a virgin?

[alexduriva]

A married man wanted to have an affair with a girl for a long time. After she told she was a virgin, he decided it’s a bad idea for her.
What’s the reason for men here-a guilt, that he won’t be able to give her serious relationship and doesn’t want to use her for a hookup? Please explain me the “responsibility” thing men talk about

[tony_love_girls]

Hey, truly I respect girls, I never try to put a girl into the hell because I love all of them. If she was a prostituter then I will did with her. Honestly I can't destroy virgin girls or even another neoghbourhood wife. If I done then in future may be her son or husband torture my daughter or wife even most my related women. God will punish you..

[Kreneman]

Despite the fact that the married man is foul, he prove that he still have a heart because it would've been bad for the girl because she is beginner to get involved in drama and on his end, he is taking advantage of her plus he probably was think he did not want the virgin girl to be haunted with bad memories of him.

[alexduriva]

Thank you for explanation

[mobiusforniner]

Honestly, the fact he recognizes and respects your love life, shows he has more restraint than most.

[alexduriva]

It means he declined because he cannot give me normal relationships, and doesn’t want to feel like a complete jerk for taking my virginity and throw me away after?
Thought he told me directly he wants me but cannot overcome principles

[mobiusforniner]

Im married. I had a friend make herself very close emotionally. I chose to end the relationship without ever sleeping with her, simply because i fell in love with her and wanted her to be happy. Not saying thats the case here, but I wouldn't use someone I love.

[alexduriva]

You’re very kind and conscious man, I wish everyone thought about how their actions would affect other person. I wish you a happy life whoever you choose to spend it with. Thank you

[mobiusforniner]

Thanks. It hurts to let go of someone you love, but its for the better. It hurt us both very badly, but ultimately she will find someone who loves her and can give her everything. I realize I canot be that man.

[alexduriva]

That’s heartbreaking and precious at the same time to read your story. Maybe she was really the One. I hope you will meet her in the next life and will be happy together. You look like a rare person who knows what true love means

[mobiusforniner]

I felt like she was the one years ago. But she wasn't interested in dating back then. Fast forward 12 years, im now married with kids and she's ready. But its too late and now im the one who must say goodbye. It was bad. Some mutual aquaintances said she struggled with wanting to live. She shut out from everyone. It remains one of the most painful experiences in my life. But thanks for listening.

[Googlemyahoo]

Would you want to remember your first time was with a married guy who ghosted after popping your cherry. That and who knows if you’re even sane. You might show up at his house or something

[alexduriva]

No I don’t and I won’t. I try to get an explanation from guys’ perspective and understand what’s the “responsibility” for girl’s 1st time they’re afraid of

[Googlemyahoo]

In HS I met a girl at this party and we were messing around and she was adamant about wanting to have sex. I asked around found someone with a condom and we went to the bedroom. I was struggling to get it in she was groaning I’m like its not going. I asked if she was a virgin she said yes. I got up said this is stupid you don’t want to do this.

She fucking attacked me. Not only that spam called my parents house ordering me to come to her house for days after.

No thanks

[alexduriva]

Not all virgins are uncontrollable monsters who chase you. I hope you understand it was her personality, not virginity damaged her brain. I never do this nonsense. Anyway I feel sorry for you and the unpleasant experience
But you said her she doesn’t want to do that. Why if she offered and you declined?

[Googlemyahoo]

I didn’t think it was appropriate to have your first time be a random guy you just met at a party

[alexduriva]

Conscious thing to do. Thank you for answers

[Googlemyahoo]

No problem 👍

[FunkyMonkee]

"A" sex? What's that? Do you mean, would I refuse to fuck her just because she's a virgin? HELL NO!! I'D LOVE to fuck a virgin at LEAST once in my life!!

[spartan55]

Virgin girls aren't worth the hassle and effort. He was just planning on banging you and having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Yep. Good manwhores wouldn't rob a young girl of a proper first romance.

Go date a young man who will truly love you.

[alexduriva]

And does man reject a girl because he wasn’t able to give her fulfilling relationships after 1st time and didn’t want to break heart for just a fling?

[Opinion Owner]

Wait. So you're not a virgin anymore?

[alexduriva]

I am still a virgin, that’s why he said he respects me enough not to get into mistress role and I need to believe again in normal relationship. But then he still hangs around to keep contact. He waits for me to lose it to someone else?

[Opinion Owner]

He's a bitch. He's acting like a woman keeping your in his back pocket. Or maybe he just likes the attention or maybe he likes the idea of still having options.

Either way, you're incredibly naive if you think that he wants you to lose it to someone else.

[alexduriva]

I understand he keeps me as an option, I understand he doesn’t love me or care. Why cannot he want me to lose it to smn else and then have casual sex with me without any guilt? I mean of course I won’t give him any chance anymore, but I think that’s quite logical explanation to his behaviour, and your 1st comment matches it

[Opinion Owner]

You can't make assumptions. It's all speculation on why he said or did the things he did. In life the truth is you can never know the answer to "If everything was the same except this one thing, would things have played out differently?" You can speculate, you can build models in your mind, but you must acknowledge the possibility that your understanding is flawed.

And people lie. They explicitly lie to other people or they lie to themselves. The best you can hope for is to be content in your self identity that you acted in a way that's consistent to yourself.

If you had lied and told him you sucked a dick before he might have had sex with you. But he might not have. If you think that getting some satisfaction from this asshole is as simple as having an random one night stand and then coming back to him to try again, well, that's not going to work. Life's not that simple.

The truth is things probably could not have played out differently. You're exactly who you are and it's sort of a non sequitur that you could be exactly the same person but have one thing different.

If you weren't a virgin, you wouldn't have been naive enough to like him. So don't worry about it, and find somebody that likes you the way you are.

[alexduriva]

You’re right about my naiveté. I’ve actually never been tricked that awful because he hid from me he’s married. Now I see I better not to trust men as it’s impossible to be 100% sure he’s single as claims.
Thank you.

[FilmGuy93]

Yes. I would and have.

[alexduriva]

May you please explain why do you feel responsibility for taking virginity and why did you reject a girl?

[FilmGuy93]

I rejected her because I didn't want the responsibility of being her first. The way a woman's first experience with a man goes will change the way she approaches men for the rest of her life. If I couldn't be what she needed emotionally after that moment, I would potentially be a bad memory, and I didn't want that.

[alexduriva]

Did you also reject her because you weren’t able to give her fulfilling relationships and didn’t want to break heart for just a fling?

[FilmGuy93]

No, I don't do hook ups. I just didn't want to have to deal with a woman learning how to have relationships. There's just things you have to experience before you can understand about relationships, and I don't want to be someone's learning experience.

[alexduriva]

I understand. Thank you for your help!🙏🏻

[FilmGuy93]

Sure thing!

[Anonymous]

Virgini girls aren't worth the effort. I don't want to teach her and waste my time.

[Anonymous]

I reject sex with people who I am not married to. However, I would love to marry a virgin.

[alexduriva]

So if you’re not planning to marry a virgin, theoretically, you’d reject sex with her? You could have an affair with her. Why do you decline?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. Because sex outside of marriage is risky behavior. Everytime you have sex you risk pregnancy and STDs. Pregnancy is best left for marriage. And limiting the number of sexual partners you have reduces your risk of STDs. However, it is not enough to just limit your own sexual partners; especially when STDs are at pandemic levels, like they are today. So I am waiting until marriage for sex; and looking for someone else who is waiting for marriage too.

[alexduriva]

Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome

[tobr83]

it depends on the guy. are you the girl?

[alexduriva]

I am. He said his can’t break his principles and he respect me too much not to corrupt me tho be wants me. Does it mean it’s a generous action as he won’t give me relationships and I’ll feel miserable?

[tobr83]

it be that he respects you too much to just pop your cherry and can't offer you anything further and that your first time should be with someone that you want to be with and start a relationship with

[alexduriva]

And by saying intimacy can happen between us someday and by hanging around me to keep our contact he means he still wants me, but not to be the 1st?

[tobr83]

yes he might still want to have sex with you but not be your first. if you would prefer you can always PM me and chat about this

[alexduriva]

You helped me so much I can’t describe how. It was so painful but now I see what men mean by that. Thank you, you’re awesome!☀️🙏🏻

[MrTaboo]

Hell no! Just the opposite

[Anonymous]

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