Does he love me and want a future with me?

[Anonymous]

boyfriend I been together three years. Been a bumpy three years as I struggled with my insecurities and jealousy as it slowly killed our relationship like my last. But he didn’t leave, he stuck around giving me chance after chance even when he was so fed up and done with me he always came back around. Things are better now as I’m in therapy trying to work through my stuff. He says he loves me but he’s not too good with words at times. But do you think a man like this, who I have been with since he was 26, loves me and sees a future with me? I still worry that he may stray. Thoughts?

[Borntodie11]

He wouldn't have stayed through the mess if he didn't love you. You don't give that kind of commitment to someone you don't love. Unless he's domineering and is keeping you around as a means of control.

If he's kind and caring and doesn't manipulate you or make you feel bad about things you shouldn't feel guilty for- stay.

If he gaslights / manipulates / controls / doesn't treat you well sometimes - leave.

[flashrex]

I can't fully know the guy from a single paragraph of text, but let me ask you this: what makes you think that he doesn't want a future with you? If you don't trust him, you need to bring those concerns to him so you can resolve them. Sometimes people just aren't good with words, but when he says he loves you he probably means it. I think the fact that he didn't leave after 3 years is telling that he's committed.

[Anonymous]

Considering what kind of pressures I know come with a jealous girlfriend with a lot of insecurities, it sounds like he does see a future with you if he's stuck around this long.

[Anonymous]

Its been three years, so my answer is yes.