Should I ask him what was wrong or is it nagging?

[Anonymous]

I was dating this guy for four months, we had feelings for each other but he said that we should not rush the process (we both had a terrible heartbreak in the past) and that we need time till we become official. I thought that things were going well but I haven't seen him since September, he said he's busy or that he's not feeling well. We barely text, and when we text it's just like texting a friend. I realised that it's over but have no idea why. Should I ask him if I had done something wrong or why he has changed? I miss him and I would like to know why his feelings have changed but I don't wanna be nagging.

Sorry for spelling mistakes.

I really cannot understand why people are not capable of writing something like: We had a good time, but I'm looking for someone, who is _____. Then I would at least know that I didn't do anything wrong. And I could work on myself if for example trust issues or something would be a problem.

[Guy13]

Acts like fresh out of break-up and bouncing around girls looking for rebound girl ⁉️

[Guy13]

Has he had a rebound since break-up. Ask.

[Asker]

He broke up with his ex quite a long time ago, but to be honest I think that he's not over her yet (although he said he was).

[Guy13]

He has never grieved the reality of Loss, therefore, unable to release shackles of Past. He’s not ready u til he stops avoiding Realities of life. This is how most of us function.-It not just him…he’s the Norm.

[JustADudePlayinADude]

You have every right to ask. I would just be like "Hey, I enjoyed my time with you and was wondering what happened between us?"

[Asker]

I'll try. Thanks for help

[Wise4myage]

I think you have every right to ask him about this.

[Asker]

I just don't wanna him to feel like being interrogated

[Wise4myage]

I hear you, so just ask in a nice manner.

[DesertP]

No move on. Sometimes we don't get closure and you'll find that it really matters little in the end when you do.