I want to have a relationship but there isn’t any one suitable for me in my surroundings. what should I do?

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No one good at work, at my neighborhood, … Also, I prefer to look natural. Do you think I should change my look by cosmetic surgery….

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

No one's going to knock on your door and say you are perfect for him. People need to see you in action in order to be drawn to more than just your looks. Join an organization that promotes a cause you believe in, and take on a position of responsibility, so people can see how you handle different challenges. Someone will eventually rise out of the crowd, and a connection can be made. Volunteering is a great way to expand on your pool of available connections, yet focus on the project, not meeting Mr. Perfect.

There is nothing wrong with being natural. Many guys prefer natural to enhanced. People who focus on enhancement are rarely satisfied with the result, leading them to become insatiable in seeking perfection. For every type of person, there are people who are drawn to that type of person. Be true to yourself. If you alter yourself to attract someone, they'll only be drawn to your alteration, not the person you are. Eventually, you'll gravitate back toward what's real for you, and the other person will accuse you of bait and switch. Don't make changes to what's natural to you, just to connect with someone. You don't want your partner focusing on something that isn't real rather than what is real.

mickmrly · Accepted Answer

You might have to start travelling a little more to expand the people you are meeting, going to similar places you are going to now but just in other areas. The whole girl next door/guy next door thing is an antique concept because people are moving all the time these days.

I’m pretty sure most women don’t need cosmetic surgery, you should at least try different makeup/fashion styles first and see how that goes first. Also getting cosmetic surgery won’t actually mean much if you still can’t find the guy you want in the first place.

unknowngirl0232 · Accepted Answer

I feel like the right person will come at the right time. He won't tell you to change your look and he will love you just the way you are. Just be confident with yourself, love yourself and everything will be alright. If you are just confined into a small place, try to travel more and meet new people, and start enjoying your life more. Don't expect men to just come to your door like an amazon package, sometimes you have to go in front of them and show your wonderful self off.

You said you prefer to look natural, then stay in that decision. Don't change yourself for someone else. If you are happy with yourself, that will make you 100 times more attractive. Have patience. Sometimes love takes time. It will turn out great or not, but never give up on love!! Hope you find a man who loves you, cares for you, gives you his attention, who is loyal, smart, and has all those wonderful things you look for in a man. BUT don't expect him to be perfect, there will be flaws but loving him unconditionally and forgiving some mistakes and fights will be things you both will face as a part of your journey together. Challenges may arise but never let the love inside you fade.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Take the initiative and make the first move, sure rejection sucks but the alternative is the status quo if you are happy with that.

If your in a small town (Like I am) you may have to expand your horizons to neighboring towns/cities or travel to meet people.

You could also try making online friends, you don't need to make them with the intention of having something more some day. Just get to know people, make lots of friends and after a few months you can decide at that point if you want to meet up, do video chats, phone calls or whatever.

Don't expect a hansom, well established guy to break into your place, and ask you out.

rienna888 · Answer

Lol I can’t find any guys interesting either, I think you should try dating apps such as bumble, pof or hinge. The ones who talk to me randomly are mostly strange people that I’m not interested in. It’s really hard to find somebody. Even if they seem to like you, you never know their intentions.

sixsixsix · Answer

Cosmetic surgery doesn't sound like a good idea because sometimes people do that and it fucks them up more then it does good... besides idc what anybody says but if you are looking at a partner and seeing them with love they will be beautiful no matter what if they are a good person , I say that because my wife is a bigger girl and has flaws but I seen her as perfectly flawed and wasn't lying when I would tell her that she the most beautiful woman in the world... but then the real her I guess eventually came out and I've learned that pretty much I think she is a narcissist and that beauty quickly turned into a hideous monster and that's all because she is actually a Terrible person on the inside.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I live in a small town, so the dating options were slim to none, so I joined e harmony.

It opened up a whole lot more than my little town.

I liked the better pay to join places, it helps eliminate many of the ones that just want to hook up.

Don't change yourself for others that is not who you are.

You want someone that wants you for who you are.

It's a lot of work finding the right person.

You will find someone.

Paulalove98 · Answer

Don't change for a guy. No matter who it is. Just be yourself. Try keeping an eye on local events in your city, volunteer, go to the park a little more,& don't be afraid to go up to a guy and say hi and start a conversation:) some guys are really shy too like girls can be but hey i made a really nice guy friend whom can be potential all because i made the first approach and started talking to him! You never know.

mermaidcancermoon · Answer

Re evaluate what you want in a lover. Make sure its reasonable. Then expand your dating options by location, race, age. I think a 1 hour drive is reasonable because you can frequently see each other on weekends

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No on cosmetic surgery unless you have a genetic defect thats well outside the normal human appearance range.

Without knowing what you look like, or what your views, interests, and hobbies are, further advice can't ge given.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You're a woman... you could be a big fat sloppy pig with no job and walk into a bar and find a free ride and some sex. I don't want to fucking hear it. I don't care. Fuck you.

Harbringer26 · Answer

I do not think you should do surgery no. Anything artificial on our physical looks looks appalling. Excessive a reaction just because there's not an abundance in your vicinity don't you think. Try to sociliaze outside your normal circles.

BlueScorpio · Answer

No surgery, just keep looking and branching out.

boggboss · Answer

What are u doing atm to show you are looking ti date

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No your fine you don't need to change you look just get out and make yourself available

Anonymous · Answer

I hear you, when some people immigrate they have issues to.

TheFlak38 · Answer

posted by a post-wall 35 year old with the most astronomical standards. women are never happy.

myabe123 · Answer

Move surgery is a permanent decision to a temporary problem.

ZenJen444 · Answer

Wow , this is sad 😔. Sorry to hear this.. do you go out? All you mentioned was work and your neighborhood?

Staximus · Answer

Don't get any stupid surgery, just learn how to find a man

EaterPeter · Answer

Do not change look by surgery. Let me see you. Let me see if I can suggest anything. Most women do not need any.

loveslongnails · Answer

You're not serious, are you?

BJP21 · Answer

Well you can DM me and see if we are neighbors. Girls your age are hard to find. ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Lower your expectations... you aren't that valuable that you only deserve the best or you would already be in a relationship...

Anonymous · Answer

No you should probably go further out from your boundaries, travel or look online

fonduegirl · Answer

Do you think a guy would drop from the sky

Iron_Man · Answer

Try church or Christian mingles

Heolurt · Answer

That sounds like a you problem.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

You hit the 304 club.

Anonymous · Answer

Try online dating.

Anonymous · Answer

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