What to do when your struggling to find closure after a bad experience?

[Anonymous]

i realise closure means different things to different people , i haven't really been able to close the book as they say after this weird experience i went through earlier this year with a girl i knew well and really liked.

despite the fact i know her , don't follow her on social media so not constently being reminded of her when i go online and i haven't seen her inperson for a few weeks as she was away at school.

but i can't seem to find any closure or feel better about the whole experience i went through because of her. so not entirely sure what to do at this point

[Guy13]

Don’t focus on it, repeat the same behaviors that bring her to the forefront of your thoughts, and stay very busy.

[Asker]

i guess but haven't actually seen her in a few weeks , came across some pictures posted by her girlfriend's but she herself doesn't seem to post much of anything

[Guy13]

It’s like a second job trying to get over someone and having to be disciplined….

[Asker]

its weird that i'm still so annoyed over here despite the fact i haven't seen her at all in some time

[Guy13]

The downside of falling hard for another…. Maybe, it will suddenly dissipate one day like it never happened 🤷🏻‍♂️

[In_Trance]

smh... move tf on. this is dumb

[Asker]

well obviously moving on is the most logically thing to do , trying to explain that i was having trouble finding closure and so moving on seemed to be more challenging

[In_Trance]

There's nothing here that needs closure. You weren't even railing her

[Asker]

whether or not we had sex or not isn't really relevant to my mental state after this encounter , obviously i have problems dealing with her personally