If you’ve been in a situationship, how did you cope after it ended?

[Anonymous]

Anger? Relief? Sadness? Happy? Did you agree to one or just found out you were in one without even realizing it?

how was it for you?

[HollyK21]

Personally I don’t feel like most people usually agree to this sort of dynamic in the way that the would a friends with benefits. With a friends with benefits it’s more of a sexual arrangement/agreement, no strings. Whereas a situationship usually involves a disconnect when it comes to officiating what things are. I’d also say there’s more of an expectation (at least for one party) that something more is meant to happen eventually.


I’ve only ever been in one situationship, entertained that for about a year before common sense hit and I was done. Simply put — indecision is a decision. It shouldn’t take months upon months for someone to decide that they want to officially date you at the very least.

[HollyK21]

**that they would

[Asker]

You are so spot on on what I’ve been through! Literally with this one person all I asked for was clarity if he just wanted to be friends and for him to still see other people or what is it. And I said no pressure. I’m not gonna get mad. I just wanna know. And basically It kept delaying so I said f*k this I’m out quietly to myself. Cause realistically, both parties can still see other people, but being that it wasn’t confirmed that that’s where it got tricky. Although he said, I was the only one that he was dealing with. However, we all know that that’s a lie. I however, wasn’t dealing with anyone else. But for some reason, I feel there’s days when I feel I’m angry. I’m sad confused and still hurt. I think more so at myself for going through it for a whole year! Call me crazy and I will gladly accept it, but it’s been 5months since I’ve spoken to him and I still think about him often.

[Asker]

And yeah, I basically realized no clarity is clarity. I didn’t agree to the situation. It’s not what I was looking for he claimed he wanted more, but I guess things change. Unrealistically unfortunately they just do.

[HollyK21]

I know it’s kinda hard not to at least be moderately impatient when it comes to getting over someone that you’re ready to be done thinking about, or feeling anything towards. But try not to be hard on yourself or rush your healing process. At this point it’s been less time without him than it was with him, so it’s fair to still be sorta stuck on him. Plus you put a lot of emotion and energy into that time with him, so it sucks when your efforts don’t pay off. Try keeping things in perspective though, like being proud of yourself for having the restraint and self respect to not reach out, because it’s hard. Remember your reasons why you made this choice when times get especially hard, like his inability to give you clarity or commit. You sound like you made the right choice, he had nothing to offer and you deserve more.

[Asker]

I will say how ever, I just wished him merry Christmas. I don't know why, to be nice I guess? Or with the hope of maybe wanting to talk to me. But he didn’t even say reply, and he said merry Christmas, been thinking about you lately with all the decorations everywhere, because he knows I love Christmas, and he said we wonders how I’m doing all the time…. Ya… it’s clear he doesn’t. If he did he woulda reached out to at least ask. But hey, at least I got confirmation about the clarity I needed!

[Asker]

I really appreciate it. And you. You tell the truth but without being So harsh or tough about it. Just straight forward! 💜

[HollyK21]

I personally feel like it was fine to have texted him, not necessarily because it was the best choice morally but things like that help you put the nail in the coffin. It’s hard not to have “what if’s” about our decisions when we choose to let someone go, and if you didn’t do things like sending the merry Christmas for example, it would’ve stuck with you. If would’ve turned into another thing to question yourself about, like what if he did respond and want to rekindle? You’d have felt like you missed it even when you didn’t. So yeah, I think sometimes a misstep is necessary to get to where you’re going. Also, no problem at all. Some people on this site can be pretty harsh and judge-y, so it’s nice to find people who don’t come at you that way.☺️💛

[nolabels]

At first, it was warmly welcome, then fun, then it became a pain in the ass, from there it was a fight against evil.
I escaped, mostly unscathed.

Relief is my current feeling.

Lessons were learned by me.

Life goes on.

[Asker]

I like that, I’m still grieving something that never was

[nolabels]

Hmm, I'm sorry for you.

Cheers to you! 😊

[jahaims]

I'm emotionally healthy so I wouldn't be in that situation

[Asker]

Same here. I ended mine and feel kind of better

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode messy heart stuff like this and keep you from falling for walking red flags 😏

Situationships hit like a breakup you were never “officially” allowed to mourn.
I felt a mix of anger, rejection and weird relief. Realized I was in one when commitment talks got dodged, but the intimacy stayed.

I coped by going no contact, unfollowing, and letting myself grieve “what could’ve been.”
Best part? Once the fog cleared, I saw how low-effort and breadcrumb-y it really was.

[Anonymous]

"Situationship" is one of the dumbest terms invented by dumb people in the last decade.

[Asker]

I totally agree!

[Anonymous]

I dont even know what situationship is.

[Asker]

I honestly praise you for that!

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Apparently, I've gone mad.