What did you do when you have to get through this kind of phase in your life?

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Helpful and insightful opinions only please OKAY so i am in my mid 20’s, i used to have friends even though it is not a lot of friends, but as the time goes by they seem to leave and enjoy their lives with their new friends which makes me end up being left one and feel lonely.  Three of my best friends are hanging out everyday with their new friends, while i am here bored at home on GAG. You may wonder, if i ever tried to make friends again, yes i have, but no one seem to be like the ones i can really call “they’re my friends!”. So im saying, i have new friends too, it isn’t hard for me to make friends and maintain friendships, but we are not as close as i was with my previous best friends. Which is kind of.. sucks to say.  I know this is a normal phase in life that everybody has experienced it in their lives even just once. And how do you manage your feelings and emotions to get over how you’re feeling left out, lonely, and unwanted by your ex friends? Because it is hard to find a friend that can actually “click” with you, unless you’re friends with them before social media was a big thing.

Rosexøxø · Answer

Wow, and this is why I don’t have friends lol 😬

I just talk to people and everything I pretty much do, is for myself. While

that is true, I still care for the well-being of the people I encounter/ socialize/ and my family.

Friends are an *emotional support system,* and I don’t really need emotional funding for a life I wish to fuel and progress/advance.

I just need bright minds, and well-meaning individuals to either present me with ideas or remind me why I should keep going, when the work itself gets to be tough or life seems rough.

We don’t need people to walk with us every. single. step. of the way because life is short and we’re all going for different stars ✨.

Appreciate the people who give you quality time. They may not give you the same

times you had with your ex friends, but they deserve a chance 🤷‍♀️. ESPECIALLY if they mean the best for you. What if they mean more for you, than your ex friends did?

Love and closeness take time as we age because we become less trusting.

Children make friends quickly because of the trust. Even if kids are drastically different and some want to draw, while others want to put objects in their teeth-

they still get along and make time for each other.

At the end of the day, it’s always going to be quality time and those who mean well, that matter.

It’s a great growing point for you!

Don’t hang on to the past because it was familiar. Seize the promises and thrills of

the future!

Besides, you don’t have to cut ties with your ex friends, altogether. Let them be the ones to reach out, if anything, even if it’s within a year or so.

Focus on you! Focus on adventure and meeting new great people and a few lone wolves out there as well!

Don’t limit or be so hard on yourself. Nothing is final for now!

Possibilities and personalities are endless 💞

ShiftingMonke · Answer

I think as you grow, you graduate into seeking different types of friends. Think of it like this: your childhood friends, if they were in your life from the age of 10 to your 20's now, over half of your conscious memory is filled with memories of them. They did make up a big part of who you are. Your 'new' friends will eventually get a close as your old friends, you must need time. Give it another 10 years, you may be surprised at who's around. I live a lonely life, and while I've got no 'old' friends I've found one good one. Finding your own independence and identity also makes a big difference.

What did you do when you have to get through this kind of phase in your life?

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