Why do I miss my old work husband even after 5 months into my new job?

[Anonymous]

I worked there for 8 years, he (37) was a director and I (24f) was an office manager.

We really got to know eachother over the years, talking to eachother about anything. He'd talk to me about his marriage problems and I'd talk to him about my dating problems. We laugh so hard that we'd cry and he'd always hide around a corner and make me jump.

We could say anything to eachother and it was never taken seriously, we'd always have a laugh.

Whenever I think about him I cry, I miss him so much. It makes me regret my decision of leaving.

Why am I still upset and why am I so upset? Is this normal?

[DubiousIntentions]

Seems for the best to me. That is the way affairs start. He is just as guilty as you. You need to keep things professional with married co-workers. You don't need anyone thinking you two are cheating or that there is any impropriety going on between the two of you.

[Asker]

We were once talking about one of his two friends having an affair and how it was awkward between them, then asked me "do you think it would be awkward between us if we had an affair?"

[DubiousIntentions]

So, the grooming has already started. :(

[Asker]

This was around 5 months ago, I don't work there now. Do you think he was trying to sleep with me?

[spartan55]

@asker
Do you think the sun will rise tomorrow? Of course he was.

[mobiusforniner]

I was the married guy who had a work wife. Everything clicked and we turned to each other for everything like you did here. She understood me and listened to me. I fell madly in love with her. But I let her go, not just for me and my wife, but for her. It still hurts more than a year later.

If he really loves you, he would let you go too.

[Asker]

I left the job 5 months ago and haven't seen/spoke to him since

[Jdjfjcjj]

Because y'all developed an emotional bond. He was cheating by the way which should be a sign of what you could expect if he hypothetically left his woman for you. I suspect his position of power (power being relative) made him more attractive too

[Asker]

Do you think he knew he was teaching? He never touched me and always made an effort not to, like he'd go out of his way not to and would make comments about not being allowed to touch me

[Jdjfjcjj]

If he felt in necessary to make such comments then I suspect he knew at some level that y'all's relationship had become inappropriate