I'm sick of these married men approaching me?

[Anonymous]

I'm noticing a pattern most to all aren't single who approaching me it's all married men.. why would a married man be seeking a woman when you have wife and family at home? I don't understand it.. I'm actually getting tired of it.. I make it clear I don't deal or talk to married men if your wife knows nothing about me neither will you know anything about me.. it's becoming draining... 😪.. constantly rejecting these men..

I'm aware it could be for sex or a broken marriage which I want no parts too. I just rejected one man a few days ago married and was stringing me along with hot/ cold behavior.. we were not dating.. never met.. but had to cut him off just for respect

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I'm celibate and not having sex its been over 8 years

[Anonymous]

I don't know, there are just a lot of shitty people in the world. No one in a marriage or committed relationship should be pursuing someone else, and no one should be pursuing someone they know is married or in a relationship. I've been married for almost two years and it's crazy how much more attention I get from women now that I'm married, including from a lot who I knew before and who know I'm married now. I didn't really know what it was like to have women truly flirt with me until I got married. People suck.

[Asker]

I know I'm tired of it at least you're married. Me finding a mate is becoming rare and hard for my situation.. I just given up

[mobiusforniner]

Im married and would not approach a single woman out of the blue.

If I am reciprocating or making advances its because she is doing the same, or at least perceived such. One guy I can get it. Multiple guys, i hate but have to say, maybe examine what you're doing behavior wise thats arousing their attention.

[Asker]

There's nothing going on these are men on dating apps real question why would married men be on dating apps

[Asker]

I don't send men nudes or talk dirty - many men are dogs

[mobiusforniner]

I didn't say send nudes or talk dirty. I ended up having an affair with a coworker because she visited my office daily, bought me gifts, cooked me food, invited me to lunch. Eventually we began seeing each other outside of work. At no point did we talk sexual topics.

[Asker]

I don't meet up with married men less more talk to them..

[mobiusforniner]

If theyre on dating apps, theyre shit asses lol. Not happy with their lives. you're doing the right thing. Just dont try and be friendly in a way that perceives reciprocated emotions.

[Asker]

None of that is happening because me and married men never go that far. Shame on you for cheating on your wife why I'd never marry in this day and time.

[Asker]

I'm on dating apps for social networking and friends, but nothing else

[mobiusforniner]

Wife knows and we work together through it. But thanks for looking out for me.

So these married guys are approaching you on dating apps not in person? Thats a big difference. Just ignore them

Why dating apps? I did the online thing in my single days and the results were terrible. Seems everyone on there are just looking for hook ups.

[Asker]

I've had men approach me... I have a right to be frustrated.. if my husband cheated on me we wouldn't be together your wife has more pride then me

[Asker]

I don't online date just there for networking and friends

[mobiusforniner]

I think its easy to judge. A decent person doesn't just plan on cheating. I certainly dont have an online dating profile. Lol

As others already mention here, affairs happen largely because something is lacking at home. For me anyway, marriage issues were going on for years and no matter how much I communicated with my wife, she wouldn't listen or, worse yet, she simply didn't care. I cannot just leave because i love my kids. So I lived in misery. It took another woman to fill those gaps and help my wife realize there was a problem. She made the commitment to change and i made the commitment to end the relationship. My friend was no secret to my wife either. I had troubles blurring lines between genuine friendship and romantic interest. Life is a learning experience

[Asker]

Not here to judge I wouldn't stay married to a man whose cheated on me less more has temptations of cheating

[Asker]

YOU COULD HAVE LEFT why there's spousal benefits.. you could have told your wife let's go to marriage therapy and if she refused that's grounds for a divorce bases upon spousal emotional abuse. So you screwed a homewrecker to help your wife understand your needs? I'm done with this conversation.. I'd never marry in this life time because of this type of bs here.

[Asker]

What I mean by men are nkt the husband material they're proclaiming to be with the exception of traditional men who are faithful to their spouses and never stepped out

[Asker]

Not ^

[mobiusforniner]

To each their own. I can only tell you what I've learned from my own experience. Good luck

[Asker]

You too.. I told you where I'm at with married men

[StephiC]

That'd just men.
Unless they have low testosterone or have learnt to harness their testosterone to achieve in life it will default to being targeted at collecting and having sex with women.

They're slaves to their biology and are taking their family down with them.

[Anonymous]

It’s awful to find out you’re the other woman. More than a few guys I dated turned out to be married. I would never do that on purpose but they hide it.

[Asker]

Yes they do and this is why I don't trust men of today now

[Asker]

Yes I've been rejecting them left and right

[AviatorTom]

If guys know you're celibate, maybe they're just looking for a female friend to talk to. Sometimes, talking to a wife about certain topics is not fun.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you are attracting lots of guys who are already taken, but none that aren't, my guess is you are abnormally gorgeous, and every decent guy just assumes you are already taken. (I could very well be wrong though).

Have you made any attempts to persue any guy you do like? Obviously having guys initiate has not been working for you.

[Asker]

No I haven't found a guy who shares my beliefs.. imnnt competition for a man

[TheSpaceGnome]

Well then keep looking I guess, but at least do something to let others know you're single, the right guy may simply pass you over otherwise.

[Asker]

Idc about finding the right man gave up there

[anon1903]

It's funny, even when guys are at fault in this question, men automatically assume that you're a whore, instead of confessing it's wrong of them to have the mentality that whores owe them something.

Spoiler : they don't.

[Anonymous]

I can relate. Most men that approach me are married.

[Asker]

This shyt is nerve racking do they honor their marriages and wives?

[Asker]

Glad I'm not married

[Woodchuck411]

Maybe they find you attractive or they think you're easy going

[Asker]

Yeah that's great , but they have wives

[Woodchuck411]

Maybe something in their marriage is missing

[Asker]

They have to figure it out it has nothing to do with me.. I don't deal with married men as I'm not married

[Woodchuck411]

PM me and we'll talk more

[Asker]

Just followed you

[Woodchuck411]

I wrote to you

[Woodchuck411]

I pm u

[Asker]

Yes I messaged you back

[FilmGuy93]

Honestly, you’re probably giving off the vibe that you’re east to manipulate

[Asker]

Nope I'm pretty much hidden

[Asker]

Its staying that way

[FilmGuy93]

Playing your cards close to the vest honestly doesn’t give a confident or self assured vibe. I haven’t interacted with you in person though, so this is just a guess

[Asker]

I refuse to deal with men of today sorry this is what im. coming across out in the dating world. I don't date or meet men to even manipulate men

[FilmGuy93]

No need to apologize. There are plenty of men who say the same about today’s women.

[Asker]

I've been single almost 10 years

[ArtemisSilver]

Because cheating is and evolutionary advantage for men and a biological impulse. Pretty obvious stuff sister.

[User3191989]

They must be republicans... they love to cheat

[Asker]

I'm republican and don't cheat Biden is in bed with kids

[User3191989]

Hahahaha, no wonder no one wants you

[Asker]

Haha no wonder why you're an idiot single by choice buddy idgaf about men not wanting me

[Asker]

Team single and celibate buddy less bs from you men

[User3191989]

Hahaha, you’re officially a troll

[Danny_dan92]

Lol right. And Democrats like to give cash handouts just before an election cycle to bribe people to vote for them.

Stfu lib tard

[Anonymous]

That good, you would know your future husband will be seeking single women.

[Asker]

One day hope to find a suitable husband

[Anonymous]

Guys don’t approach you, stop lying

[Asker]

Who does cats and dogs ?

[Asker]

Grow up

[Danny_dan92]

Reject them.

[Anonymous]

You're easy for sex?

[Asker]

I'm celibate so how am I easy for sex it's been 8 years

[Asker]

I don't have sex with men

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you're hot n sexy 😘

[Asker]

Doesn't mean I am having sex

[Opinion Owner]

Sex is beautiful things you should have it with unmarried guy...😘

[Asker]

I should have sex with ny husband since no guy apriaching me is marriage material it's a no

[Asker]

I rather stay single

[Opinion Owner]

Ma'am so you don't sex before marriage?

[Asker]

No I don't have sex before marriage and wouldn't date a guy who doesn't honor this due to religious beliefs

[Opinion Owner]

Muslim?

[Asker]

Men of today most aren't marriage material

[Asker]

No follow God's laws

[Opinion Owner]

So you want men from different planet to marry? because in this planet men's are not marriage material according to u.

[Asker]

I don't deal with men at all

[Opinion Owner]

So you deal with woman's?

[Asker]

No the majority aren't.. I will stay single and celibate as I have been 8 -9 years

[Asker]

No but may have a better chance of healthy union with a woman then a man nowadays.. I'm not lesiban.. I don't think men of today are worth it pretaining to dating and marriage

[Asker]

No I may have to go to women