Men, do you think its fair to dump a woman if she is bad in bed?

[Anonymous]

Im quiet and i have anxiety issues. I dont let him eat me out because i am ticklish. I prefer lights off. I give up when trying new positions. I can feel him getting irritated and he tries his best to have patience with me but i just feel so bad that i am not good for him

[inhua]

if he were to dump you because of this, what could he possibly be wanting? unless its an inconsistent rule you have for what is allowed or not allowed that depends entirely on the partner.

there are some women who have a wild past in their HS or college years but they refuse to do any of the same with their husband that they did with their casual hook-ups or ex-boyfriends. if this is the case, you've already given your best to someone else before him and he gets a lesser version of your best.

on the flip-side he could someone who's used to getting the best sex from other women and is therefore frustrated. wouldn't be your fault if you were a virgin when you met him. he'll just need to be patient.

[Anonymous]

If it's a recreational relationship, yes. If it's something deeper and longer term, you need to work on trust and negotiation, and talk it through. If you don't, you'll continue to worry and feel awkward which won't help.
If the relationship works well in other areas, that will help greatly.

[Nikki1989]

If it is not working in the bedroom, there are bound to be problems in other areas of the relationship too.

[Berethor]

Usually men don't dump a woman because of that, many women are borderline asexual. I don't think that it fair if that the best you can do, and bad sex is better than no sex.

[that1guy19]

No that's a terrible reason to dump a girlfriend. If they do that you're really just a friends with benefits. Should be more to a relationship than sex

[TroyDT2]

If he cares about YOU he'll be patient. If he cares primarily about sex, he will leave.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't break up with a just because she is bad in bed

[In_Trance]

Nobody ever said life would be fair

[Asker]

Agreed, but would u break up?

[In_Trance]

Chances are if things aren't going well in the bedroom it's a result of things not going well somewhere else such as communication.
That said I think this is a valid reason

[dudeinohio]

Sexual incompatibility can be a deal breaker.

[panamared1]

She just needs practice

[Anonymous]

I would dump a vanilla.