Dealing with being never loved?

[Anonymous]

Since my early 20s, I've noticed that whenever I wear makeup and dress up, guys would lean forward and stare at me or literally turn around and stand there staring at me as I walk across the room. One guy waits ahead of a trail to stare/smile until I walk past, and another would ditches his friends to walk back and forth infront of me, glancing over and raising his brows at me each time he passes me. Another would step out of the queue to stare at me when he sees me.

All this only happens when I wear makeup and altho I always dress conservatively, I began to realise that guys were merely treating me like some possession and they weren't genuinely interested in me. A couple of guys have done this for months but have no intention of approaching and I've never had anyone like me for who I am.

[__MisterGoneShiner__]

They want to see the "FAKE YOU" with all that make up and dressing up.

But, you know what, you should NOT dress as what they would want and put make up to look "pretty" to them.

The point is that, you should be in peace with yourself and love yourself as who you really are NATURALLY and dress, walk, talk and literally blurt out the expression in your own style. Don't try to have an "alter ego" or something for other people. Always be yourself and always believe that whatever people says, remember that YOU ARE PERFECT AS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU LOOK and not by pretending.

Always remember what Anne Marie says in her song, "Perfect To Me" , hun.
"Don't feel like putting makeup on my cheeks (because) i do what I wanna. I Love every single part of my body, top to the bottom... I'm not a supermodel from a magazine. I'm okay with not being perfect (for others' perspective)!
Cause that's perfect to me (she ONLY cares about how SHE looks for herself)!"

[Asker]

Hey thank you so much for taking the time to answer. Your response made me feel so much better. Just to clarify, I don't wear make-up for guy, I wear it to feel confident but I'm only beginning to realise that guys only like me for it- it feels depressing that people don't like my true self and I'm being treated like some possession

[__MisterGoneShiner__]

Said them as generally, i didn't ment to say like, "you wear make up for boys" or something. I apologize if it came out like that...

[__MisterGoneShiner__]

If you'd want to discuss it further, my dms on GAG are open.

Hope i could help you even a bit.

[Asker]

Hey tysm, I just dmed you :)

[User3191989]

"but girls don't dress for men", says women

Also women: "I dress conservatively, and i began to realize that guys were merely treating me like some possession and they weren't generally interested in me"

Can't have it both ways, women

[Asker]

Lol guys like you just need to make this some generalized gendered topic when it's clearly not. Firstly I don't wear makeup/dress up for men. Secondly, the reason I mentioned that I "dress conservatively" is to help people like you understand that this is not about the clothes I wear. Since guys check out women for showing skin, I'm clearly saying that I am NOT showing any skin and only dress conservatively to avoid that kind of attention. So you're contradicting yourself.
Thirdly, this isn't even a gendered topic as you make it to be, don't even know why u're getting triggered.

[User3191989]

Like i said
Women, you can't have it both ways
You're proof

[Asker]

Don't think you can read but I literally said I only wear makeup and I DON'T wear revealing clothes because I want to AVOID attention. What's your point?

[Paul09]

I'm sorry to hear you have plenty of creepers in your area. And you are still in your early 20s lol. Don't worry about it too much.

[Asker]

I'm in my mid 20s now, all this started in my early 20s

[Anonymous]

Sounds cliche but the right guy will love you for who you are one day.

[Anonymous]

Just live life and the right person will find you

[Anonymous]

Are you a virgin by any chance?