What are my exes feelings towards me now?

[MARTHEGREAT4]

So I'm really here to rant a little and overall get an opinion on the situation as a whole. Me and my ex girlfriend who was also my first girlfriend ever broke up two weeks ago. The reason was mainly poor communication and she said that she lost feelings. Last Friday she reached out to me saying If I was ok, we had a conversation and ended up deciding to meet in person to discuss it a little. So that Sunday we met up and had a talk, she asked me to go with her to grab ice cream cause she didn't want to go alone. Then Monday she reached out talking about my profile picture change which is satirical then continued it into a if I was ok and saying how she gets worried and cares about me also. So now I'm overall just trying to see where I am at with her and I also want to know what my odds are if I asked her to meetup sometime soon. She was also a lot of my firsts not only my first girlfriend but my first kiss and my first love.

Thanks in Advance

[lightbulb27]

Good job, you are learning a lot at a young age. and how old is this girlfriend?

Very good. Relationships are like this... you find you love someone... then find out all the areas you don't match, or agree, or fit together well emotionally. Communication is a huge part of life and even when the language is the same, it's a lot of work. IF there's stresses, too much of them, it will disrupt the emotions and emotional connection you have... the love.

So you have to do work, constantly and for some time to get to know this person, get to know yourself... your needs, work on your issues, work on your flaws and work together... so that you communicate well with this person giving them what they need to feel good. That in essence... is learning to like that person and learning to love yourself.

They don't teach you any of this stuff, how hard it is. Reality is, girls are very different emotionally from guys. At bare minimum, their hormonal swings are more drastic and change over time which changes how they feel, their moods, their responses, and it can really jack with your head and challenge you in how to be at peace with that person. You can find ways to do so, usually.

If you can work through obstacles, then you grow stronger because you are in essence... problem solving and it builds a much better bond than if you just feel "love"... which is often infatuation chemicals and fantasy from your mind. You start to love that person you know and yourself, rather than the dream you had of them.

That creates strength and she will feel that, and that will feel good! So yes, you have a chance.

Most people react poorly to such challenges, they have lots of options, they are confused about what is going on and themselves, so they give up and run. That's fine as long as you learn from it. But you have good chance to persevere if you are willing to put in the effort.

It's not easy winning a decathalon either... lots of training and work and no guarantees. But it's the training that is really, the fun part... right?

[Guy13]

Sounds like you’re healing together. Good luck.

[bubblegunnn]

I think she still have a feeling tho from whar u explained and she's not being idgaf ex who doesn't care about u after broke up.. maybe u could ask her again if she still have feeling for u or nah, or maybe y'all could be together again and fix ur last issue.. lack of communication

[amrutha_prekshan]

Bro!!! Many girls are really so inexpressive creatures... so we people never say what we feel about... that easily.. so I can conclude that she's really into you... but be as wise a possible when u choose something that is really a meaningful and worth to you...🖤😄

[DubiousIntentions]

I think you should ask her, not some people who have no real idea. If you can't bring yourself to do that simple thing, then you probably didn't have anything and were not able to talk to her then either.

[dereksmith2503]

Dude she obviously cares, just don’t reach out to her let her chase and reach out to you then you set a time to see her! Don’t be all over her or clingy let her chase and get busy with your life! Lift weights make money don’t get hung up on it! But let her chase you if she doesn’t call all week u don’t call let her reach out then set a time to see her u should only see her 1-2 times a week max! She is Askin if your ok say “I’m always good”

[Anonymous]

You need to stop talking to her.

Stop letting her use you to sooth her emotional heart aches when it suits her.

she is without a doubt talking to and or fucking another guy already.

Women will keep an ex guy on a leash for the emotional soothing but have another guy for digging her out and then if and or when the other guy dissolves she will use the ex as a crutch until a new guy comes along.

cut all ties.

[Twalli]

She cares about you and loves you, but isn't in love with you.