Ex-situationship has feelings for me?

[self22]

So I don’t know what to do? Prior to all of this there already rumors going around that he liked me and was thinking about asking me out. Then I told him I like him and we started hooking up. Now the duration of all of this he never admitted to me or express he has feelings for me. He then got into another relationship completely stopped talking to each other. (We we’re coworkers) I decided to work at another location. Everyone who I told this to, says he still has interest in me. It didn’t mattered if the girlfriend as around, he would find ways to be around me all the time and that was at work. He could come on his days off. Multiple times a week or even throughout the day. He recently DM on social mainly tik-tok and started teasing each other how much we missed him each other (one time thing). I just feel sorry for the girlfriend. I feel like she’s a placeholder for him. But he’s wasting her time? But I’m torn if I should confront him about it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah girl, that is one messy situationship for sure! I can see why you’re feeling all confused.

On the one hand, it does kinda sound like he might still have feelings for you if he was always finding excuses to be around at work, even when he didn’t have to be. But him getting into another relationship so fast is super shady too. Definitely is wasting that poor girl’s time if he’s not fully over you.

I don’t know if I’d directly confront him about it though. Guys can be dumb about their feelings sometimes, and he might deny it or get defensive. If I were you, I’d probably just focus on moving past it for now. Don’t dwell on the “what ifs.”

If he reaches out again, I’d maybe just tell him straight that you can’t be involved with him at all if he’s still with someone. Make your boundaries clear. But other than that, I’d try not to overthink it too much, sis! You’ve got better things to do than stress over some boy who can’t make up his mind. His problem now, not yours!

[spartan55]

Hmmmm pretty much what I said and got deleted.

[self22]

Yeah, every time I take one step back he take one step forward. I’ve been ignoring him this whole time.

[self22]

@spartan55 yes, I never said you wrong but it was the choice of words is why I deleted it. Cause I thought you were condoning his behavior.

[spartan55]

@self22
Not at all. I think friends with benefits and whatever other buzzwords you want to call an uncommitted relationships are flawed on many levels. They start with no respect towards either party or the relationship. (but there is no relationship)
Is it any wonder they almost never succeed long term?

[self22]

Only reason why I didn't confront him yet.

[self22]

@spartan55 and that’s what I find interesting cause I always thought he didn’t he care and it was a one time thing

[spartan55]

You are conflatng him caring with him wanting easy sex.

[moviedude714]

Reminds me of a situation I had with a woman when I was 29