Are narcissists capable of loving someone or is all that part of their seductive manipulation?

[Jimz72]

[WildCard42]

My ex-wife is a narcissist and she was capable of being attracted to me, enjoying the sex and intimacy, as well as loving the way that I treated her.

As far as her ability to love me or our child, her feelings didn't go very deep. A narcissist is very selfish and only values people who serve them in some way. She liked having me because I loved her and I took care of her, but she didn't actually care about me. She liked having a kid to take pictures with and give the impression that she was a great parent. Behind closed doors was a different story usually.

[Vesuvius87]

No, they're never capable of genuinely loving anyone. They lacked empathy and compassion for people. The only they love about you is what you provide to them and how well you satisfy their needs, their own ego. You are just a commodity to them. They're full of lies and manipulation. First it's the idealization stage (you're perfect to them), then it's the devaluation where they find all your flaws intolerable and start berating you to the point you have no remaining confidence and finally comes the discard phase when they find you no longer useful and replace you with someone else. They are always full of supplies. All of the sudden, they write love poems to someone else they met for only a few weeks or months.

I'm speaking from experience with my narcisistic-sociopathic ex boyfriend. They are toxic waste of oxygen that don't even love themselves.

[Vesuvius87]

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[Vesuvius87]

Thank you for the MHO

[whereismyjohnny]

In my opinion, no. They can never genuinely love someone. Narcissists don’t want to really know or understand others. Having said that, they don’t possess any empathy. What they love is validation and attention from partners, and people in general.

[aaron210419]

No, the are definitely not capable of actually loving another person. They lack empathy and everything they do is to benefit them in some way or another. If it feels like they are doing something nice for you is only because they will benefit in some form also. Whether it's by gaining your trust or otherwise, if you have positively identified someone as a narcissist, run! Do not get involved, don't believe their lies send don't fall for their games. I was married to a covert narcissist for almost 9 years and before that I didn't know what a real narcissist was.

[Vesuvius87]

Indeed. They are sick, toxic people that'll never love you. We're just commodities to narcissists, objects to be used.

[aaron210419]

Exactly, they live life like they're the star of a movie and everyone else is just extras. It's quite sad actually because deep down they hate themselves more than they hate anyone else.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Impossible. Love is humble, giving, kind and unselfish.

A narcissist by definition is all about themselves and doesn't genuinely care about the best interest of others.

[1User12345]

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