Have you tried couples therapy? Has it worked for you?

[Anonymous]

My partner and I are trying couples therapy (my suggestion but he agreed). We've been together a long time and I'd like to make sure we're communicating as best as possible. Also, I know he has reservations about marriage that even when I've asked, haven't gotten a straight answer.

[caring__1]

Couples therapy can be very helpful, if you find a therapist who is open to helping the two of you discover what works best for you rather than one who pushes his/her agenda onto you. It's not about what you should/shouldn't do but what works for the two of you. It's OK to switch therapists if it isn't a good match for both of you, but you don't want someone who is taking sides with one against the other. Not all therapists are qualified to teach effective communication skills, so ask about the therapist's specialty.

Both of you need to be invested in the therapy for it to have positive results. If he is just tolerating attending, you probably won't like where it goes. Have you taken the time to show him curiosity in understanding his reservations about marriage, or are you just pushing what you want on him? If it doesn't work for both, it won't work for either.

[PatriceONeal]

Most therapists nowadays are they themselves suffering from a mental disorder.

[bubblegunnn]

Never tho