Is it fair if a woman is bothered that her boyfriend will not pay for her children when they are out together and the kids are there?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is fair

No it is not fair

[TheCleverOne]

Yeah I think it is because if the guy close a woman with kids, he'll have to take responsibility for them also, plus that children should come first in my opinion so personally If i get married and have kidd and then divorce and want a new man, I would never choose a husband/boyfriend that won't treat my kids good and so on, there are multiple ways you can answer this question with multiple points of view but I personally would feel offended 🤷‍♀️

[dustybiker]

Perhaps it’s on both of them.
Her for assuming he would pay.
Him and the woman for not discussing it all before it happened. Clear communication pre-resolved all sorts of problems.

[sirderpsalot123]

Did the boyfriend make her aware of the fact that he wasn't going to pay? Nope. Not his kids, not his responsibility.

Did she assume that he was going to pay, then later found that wasn't the case? They are
both (mostly the mother) wrong. She shouldn't assume or expect him to pay. They both should have discussed this before going out.

[Adam1978]

Sounds like it's not his and it's not his call to have them around. So no he isn't responsible to cover their costs. But if he was smart he would leave her be. She needs to accept life as a single mother and be an example what happens if you pick poorly. She and the dad are responsible for the kids costs wherever they choose to go.

[Midgetmcwidget]

I don't know. No idea why you have children if you want others to pay for them

[Adaeva]

I suppose it depends on the situation.