Is it good to wait to be your best self before wanting to be in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Nomina]

To a certain degree. No one will ever be perfect or their best selves. That's unrealistic and you'd be waiting forever - royal you.

If you have certain unhealthy habits, working on those would help. But then again, I know some people who STILL have unhealthy habits and are in happy relationships. Probably because imperfection is part of life and we need to accept that.

Great that this question came up because I've spoken about this to a friend a while back and she wanted to wait until she had her career where she wanted it to be before being in a relationship. While I get that, I also think it's sad in a way. No one knows what the future will bring, what obstacles will get in the way of career. She could experience setbacks that will take her back a few years and have to start all over again... really know one knows.
The best relationships around me are of people who got together either late in high school or in college. They were all broke as fuck when they got together and built a life together. All of them are very successful now in their own way. If they had waited until they felt they were perfect enough for a relationship, they wouldn't have their kids, the support they gave one another in growing personally/professionally and so on.

To a certain degree - hate repeating myself but bleh - I think the goal (and I'm gonna try to do that myself) is simply be your best self today. While it's a choice to put relationships off, I don't think it's necessary if the person doesn't feel like it.

[Asker]

I love this thank you for your answer 😊 and best wishes x

[UniquelyBasic]

It can be sometimes but you can be in a relationship and work on yourself. Not saying to go into a relationship if you're in a really bad situation in life but overall if you are somewhat stable mentally, physically and financially you shouldn't put off dating.

[spartan55]

What if your best self tells your current self they are going to dip?

[Anonymous]

Not the way I'm reading this question. If you're willing to give 100% to a partner, you're ready! Regardless of your situation.

[Asker]

Thanks for this comment 😊😊

[Opinion Owner]

Np, that's what we're here for 🙂

[nawtee_me]

Isn’t relationships about two becoming one and making better people of one another?

[Asker]

😊 Yes I think two people can heal each other…

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, it's good to just be your best self now, and if you can't, your SO will get you there if they know what your best self is.

[LiamJHayden]

Only if you want to be alone. Being you best self is a goal, not a destination, and people never actually get there. If you are improving that is sufficient.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes but a good woman will bring out the best in you

[FilmGuy93]

I would say so... You shouldn't let perfection get in the way of good enough, though.

[pizzalovershouse]

If having breack up problems or any mental or bad health yes

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

And when will you that be?

[jjj101010]

What if u never get there?

[Asker]

Yeah I know that’s my concern…..