If my girlfriend got intimate with another woman on my b-day, that's still cheating right?

[Anonymous]

Two months ago was my b-day and she came late. I just found out she's been with someone else but I'm not sure how to react. It wasn't with a man. It was with another woman.

I knew she was bi but we agreed to be in a committed relationship as I'm not into sharing. While I don't feel that threatened by another woman, I still felt she cheated.

If a woman gets intimate with another woman it's still cheating right?

Updates

1 y

I guess I won't ever date a bi woman again. She's trying to call me but I'm currently ignoring her calls. While it was hurtful what she did on my b-day, I feel awkward about this situation. I'm still hurt but not as devastated as if it would've been if she was with a man.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Because you two agreed that her and another woman wouldn't happen then yes... it broke a verbal contract.

I wouldn't have a problem with another chick, but from my years of experience, another chick with my female half (and without me) can quickly involve some dude or the act of getting with the chick was an act that revolved around some dude. I bet if you do some digging, you'll find there was a dude. Telling you it was a chick only is one way of avoiding some wrath. That's just my perception of the bi chick situation... every female-female encounter turns into a 3some and there is a dude. Chicks do that to entice a dude to begin with.

Combine that with the fact that you didn't agree that other chicks are alright, she's proven her word is as good as horse shit... it might just straight up be a dude next time.

[Asker]

I'm still upset that she broke our verbal agreement of only being us in the relationship and no sharing. I think I'm breaking up and not getting involved with a bi woman ever again.
I'm not interest in any type of sharing. I was all for a committed relationship that leads towards having kids in the future.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Don't blame you... she's proven that her given word is horse shit. As for Bi women... I think you're making a wise choice. Especially because you're looking for a committed relationship that leads toward having kids. From what I've noticed in people in general... if their sexuality is part of their identity then there is going to be some sort of obsession with the genitals. If you're not looking for threesomes with two chicks then there really isn't a use for a bi chick. You'll not only have to be on the lookout for dudes but every chick "friend" becomes a red flag as well. The chick "friends" are what bring guys around eventually even with a straight chick... It's just multiplied with a bi-chick because everybody has a possible sexual intention.

You don't want to end up being that guy at home with the kids, explaining that she runs off for a few months like this every now and then, but she always returns. ... My uncle was that guy, and I think it tormented him even though he didn't really care about chicks. It's like my aunt (the blood-related one) would just ditch him with me, a 16 year old kid, just so she can slurp on a pussy she found. Needless to say, I had much more respect for him than I did for her... it was selfish as all fuck. ... and that's the kind of stuff you'd have to look forward to with a bi chick, or at least the possibility of it.

[HighValue]

It is still cheating. My advice is to not date a bisexual person. No matter what you do, they will always feel like they are missing out on something and will eventually be unsatisfied in an exclusive LTR. Don't believe their lies of being able to stay faithful. Any bi people I have known IRL have ended up cheating eventually or leaving their partner.

[Asker]

I guess I need to break up with her

[SarahS98]

It makes no difference. If you've agreed to a committed, monogamous relationship then it's cheating. The gender of the person she cheated with is irrelevant.

[Asker]

True and I'm breaking up now. She still broke our verbal agreement of only being us in the relationship.

[Berethor]

Yea it cheating, most men would try to get a FFM out of it, but looks like you not into that.

[Asker]

yeah I don't want any sharing of any type. I want a serious, committed relationship that leads to eventually forming a family.

[Asker]

I guess I might have to treat this as if she cheated with a man; break up with her right.

[Berethor]

I see, but you known that she bi so what did you expect? she want a man and a woman.

[Asker]

yeah I'm not ever going to date a bi woman ever again. I thought I've made our agreement clearly that it was just us in the relationship, no sharing. I'm breaking up.

[misogynistic_pig]

It's his fault for being the boyfriend of a bisexual woman.

[Asker]

I guess I'm not ever dating a bi woman ever again. I just thought that since she agreed to be in a committed relationship with me, she wouldn't break our agreement.

[Twalli]

Find out why she wanted that woman, beyond the physical. A lot of guys understand that there are some things girls can provide that they can't. As long as she is devoted to you, she'll stay. After all, you can give her what no girl can.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Yes she cheated and it makes no difference if it was another woman.

[Anonymous]

She should have discussed it beforehand, but jeez, it is not the end of the world. Stop being so insecure.

[Asker]

Insecure?
How is wanting a serious, committed relationship that leads to having a family being insecure? This means she lied to me when she agreed to being just with me.

[UniquelyBasic]

Yeah its still cheating

[Asker]

and that's why I'm breaking up today. She broke our agreement of only being us in the relationship.

[rienna888]

yes it is for sure

[Asker]

Then I guess I might have to treat this the same as if she cheated with a man; break up with her.

[rienna888]

What did she do on ur bday

[Asker]

She spent all the afternoon at her female friend's house and they had a sexual relationship.

[rienna888]

Wtf yeah that’s cheating since she’s bi