If your girlfriend hooked up with another female behind your back would you consider that cheating?

[Rubina6666]

I hooked up with my female best friend and I’m afraid to tell my current boyfriend. I’ve been feeling very guilty because I thought okay if it was me with a male? He wouldn’t like it, but is it the same if it’s a female? I know some men that are serious might not like the idea and some might find it attractive (Is this love if they do?). I need honest answers please.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I don't mind female-to-female contact. It's 100% legal for my wife to do, she just never does. I even encourage it. The only time it comes close to it happening though, there is a dude that gets involved and that's what I'm not cool with.

I'm not one of those dudes that "wants to watch" or "possibly join in" just because I might get extra action either. I mean I wouldn't mind but I'm fine with it being out of my sight as well... I mean that gives me a boner. My reasoning is that other females don't try to 'steal' my wife or can get her pregnant. And on the plus side if that chick is cool with me and know I'm cool with it, she's not going to do that douchbag stuff, like getting my wife to lie to me about something, or do secret meetings. That stuff only happens when a guy is around or a chick wants to pull a guy into the mix. Just my 2 cents on it.

[HighValue]

It is cheating. It breaks the trust in the relationship. Once trust has been broken it can NEVER be fully regained. the relationship will never be totally the same no matter what you do now.
You'd still be better off telling him because if he learns about it from somewhere else it will be much worse.

Personally I would leave her over it. If I can't trust the person (even in circumstances that don't involve cheating) then I have no interest in the relationship.

[Th3ft]

Like you said it all depends on the couple. what has been the conversation on that subject. Does he know she is in to girls? Has she ever been in to girls before? I personally would think of this as cheating as she knew he wasn’t a fan of her having sex outside of the relationship. However he might still find it hot as you said.

[danny8325]

It's still consider cheating but that won't bother me. If my girl cheated with a guy, which means (in my opinion) my girl wanted something another guy can provide but I can't. I will have to break up. But if my girl is bi and cheated with another girl; A girl can provide something no man can ever do. Hooking up with a chick not only makes her happy (completes her in another sense) and pose no threat to me. (Maybe a little threat if she ended up being a lesbian, then that's a different story)

[Drumlin2001]

Absolutely. Dosen't matter what gender the person is. If she gets physical or emotional with someone else without discussing with me first it's cheating

[Drumlin2001]

Let me pose tou a question. If he had hooked up with a male friend of his, would you be annoyed?

[one1wild00]

I'd be ticked if a girlfriend hooked up with another girl without me. She had better be prepared for a repeat with the gal only being a 3 way this time with me included..

[Ekvark]

This was not communicated and agreed upon before hand, it's cheating.

[vald9inches]

I would not consider it cheating but i definitely would encourage communication and openness and letting me know beforehand even if she was cheating

[Kelly6]

That happened an my hubby didn’t see that as cheating

[Anonymous]

If my SO has sex with anyone other than me without my knowledge or consent, yeah that is cheating.

[Anonymous]

Still cheating. Just like it would be for you if he hooked up with another guy.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That’s an abomination. Probably throw a wooden cross in her face

[TallAnon]

Yeah, not giving someone to chance to decline is the same as doing while they declined.

[Lunatic1]

It is still cheating. Explain the situation to him and see what happens.

[mark000h]

It's definitely cheating.

[Birdlegs]

You cheated. Point blank

[sirderpsalot123]

Yeah

[In_Trance]

yeah

[Anonymous]

It’s cheating. Wtf.

[RobEurope]

Yes its cheating.