Should I go back to my wife?

[Anonymous]

Split up, back together, not talking what next?

Yes

No

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+1 y

What I'm saying is, i have gone off her over the years. I can't see a solution.

[Miristheiss]

It depends on what the issue is.

If one of you cheated or crossed some major boundary then no.

If you two are just growing apart or falling out of love then yes, you two should honor your commitment. Actively date each other and put in the effort you did back when you got together, put each other first instead of yourselves, eat right, exercise and look good for each other, work on communicating respectfully, cutting out sarcasm, complaining, accusing, name calling. Going out and do new things together and learn new things about each other, start new hobbies together.

Honor your commitments.

If one of you cheated or is always going out drinking and clubbing and hanging out with opposite sex people then just divorce.

[Asker]

That is interesting point

No drinking
No communication
Thinking about other girls

[Miristheiss]

I'm taking it that you are stating you are thinking about other women. If so that is unfaithful. You promised, made a vow to make her your one girl for life.
Your job is to NOT think about other girls and to catch those thoughts as soon as you get them and to bounce them away and think about other things.
If you are tempting yourself by flirting and hanging out a lot with girl co-workers or friends that are women and actively enjoying their company and how much you like them and the like, it is your job to cut that out and nip it in the bud and keep away from these women.
If you start feeling a little something for one of them you immediately stop hanging around her and you starve these feelings.
The alternative is to give in and feed these feelings. You'll hang out with them more and more, think about them more and more until you want them so bad there is no going back. You'll be too obsessed and too horny.

Faithful and selfless nips these in the bud and stays away.
Selfish and unfaithful will feed the thoughts, hang out with other women more and more, push the line further and further until there is no going back.

[Anonymous]

Try to assess what the future looks like with this one.

Underneath all the frustrations and anger, is there a bedrock of good will that you can tap into and get the relationship back on track?

Does she really want you there or are you just wasting time? Are you fundamentally compatible? Do you want the same things?

If you can see a future, it's with looking past the current nonsense and her current toxicity and trying to rebuild. Invest in her emotionally, start out small, see how she reacts, react maturely to her moods, defend your boundaries.

If not, .. well..

[Asker]

The situation is where she accepts me
But i don't accept her
It's my house obviously i want to live there. My kids.
Can i keep going with her
Or shift my emotional interest to another woman

[DishLady]

There's absolutely no context to go by. Typically I would say NO -- SHE'S YOUR EX FOR A REASON. Make a clean break and get on with your lives.

[Apple1996]

If that what makes you happy then yeah

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through the rollercoaster of relationships is my jam! Whether it's the thrill of lovebombing or the chill of ghosting, each twist and turn has its own charm. Now, let's talk about you and your wife. Ah, the classic love story with more ups and downs than a soap opera! The key here is to dig deep and figure out what's pulling you back. Is it love, or just the comfort of familiarity? Remember, getting back together should be more than hitting the replay button on your favorite romantic flick. It's about rewriting the script with more maturity, understanding, and commitment. So, before you jump back in, ask yourself if both of you are ready to address what went wrong and work on it. Love's the goal, but mutual respect and growth are the game. If you feel like you can make it work, it might just be worth another shot. And, if you do decide to go back, make it epic, will you? 😉

[Finchie40]

No , let her go , if someone can walk away from you? They will do it again

[Asker]

She didn't walk away
Just overreacted
Things became difficult
And now i have quit alcohol
But can't face going back into the relationship

[Finchie40]

Sadly alcohol can be a reason you and your wife are having issues , depending on how much you drink? If you only drink in moderation and don’t allow yourself to get wasted , than she really can’t say shit but if you are allowing alcohol to consume your life and you are drinking every day , than sadly that could be a problem on your part that you should try cutting back on. Ask yourself what’s more important? Your marriage or alcohol? I am a drinker as well , and that’s why I no longer date non drinking girls’ they will make your life a living hell lol

[Asker]

As i mentioned i stopped drinking
completely

My drinking wasn't that bad. I think I was masking my unhappiness

However, my emotional connection to the wife is now minimal. Still angry with her.

I don't have any answers

She did nothing wrong i guess. But i have gone off her.

[Finchie40]

So you are angry with her for no reason? has their been anything else weighing you down in your life? Are you under a lot of stress? Work? Finances? Etc. Most times we project our anger onto our partners’ the people we love the most , because we don’t really know how to cope with our own anger , so we tend to bring our partners’ down to our level like they are a punching bag to us. We tend to point fingers at them instead of pointing fingers at ourselves first , which causes this dynamic to occur. So try to figure out why you are angry and then try to focus on yourself , without attacking others , find things that you enjoy doing or things you always thought about doing like a hobby or craft that you can focus on , to help keep your mind off of negative things. That usually helps myself when I am feeling angry or down. Apologize to your wife , if you want your marriage to last and stop pointing fingers at her and start pointing fingers at yourself first. Most of us are going through hard times in our lives mainly because of all the negative shit that is happening around us today , It’s harder for most of us to smile and feel at peace anymore , I blame social media for playing a big part on consuming our minds with useless information , with all the shit that is occurring around the world , Try not to spend too much much of your personal time playing on your phone or internet , and start using that time to focus on yourself , like exercising , or a hobby , whatever makes you happy. Fuck social media , Social media was designed as a money making platform to suck us in to buy things , to make us think we need certain things to make ourselves happy , if you put your phone down and go out in public , you will realize most the shit we absorbed into our heads from social media , means absolutely nothing , just trying to help ya bro

[Asker]

That's good stuff
I completely off alcohol now more than 14 months
And going to gym
And not talking to my wife

[Finchie40]

Do you want your marriage to end? By not talking to her is only going to push the both of you farther away from each other , and more than likely result in one of you doing something stupid , like cheating or having an affair , if you are not happy in your marriage you are best to separate and go your separate ways after having a big talk with each other without pointing fingers at each other , if you both can’t open up and communicate with each other than you are best to file for a divorce and go your separate ways but before you go that route? Really ask yourself if you want to stay married to someone that you aren’t happy with? Sometimes separation will help the both of you to decide what you really want , it’s better than going through a divorce right away , especially if you have kids together. My wife and I separated but we stayed mutual for the kids sake , we are still legally married but we both realized we weren’t on the same page with a lot of things , we constantly butt heads , so we went our separate ways without filing for a divorce , we don’t hate each other , we just know we aren’t good for each other , we eventually tried working things out and things were going good between us for a bit , we mainly became FWB’s and both agreed to be honest with each other if we end up meeting someone else. We both agreed we were allowed to date other people but if we end up in bed with someone else? We agreed we would just file for divorce and really go our separate ways. This is just a suggestion for your marriage with your wife if you are clearly not happy with her

[Asker]

She has triggered a lot of hate

[Finchie40]

Have you asked her for a separation or divorce? If so , what is her response to it?

[Asker]

I going to

[Jkgordon]

What is your astrology signs?

[Asker]

Scorpio