Why do I keep getting attached to toxic people?

[Anonymous]

I don't know how to explain it properly but i realise I don’t actually catch feelings i just get attached and obsessed and when they leave I get upset but if someone new comes I’ll forget about who I was obsessed with before. Also, I mainly fall for the asshole type of guys and it’s so tiring or if any guy gives me attention I automatically think they like me and that I’m in love like wtf…

[Exterminatore]

Sounds like you don’t want to watch drama on TV, but live it.


Predictable and normal are probably boring to you. You probably need constant emotional excitement.


You probably have abuse somewhere in your past and that set the model for how you subconsciously think you should be treated and what relationships should be like.


You also sound like you may have borderline personality disorder.

[coachTanthony]

You are addicted to the rollercoaster of toxic emotions that this type of relationship provides. So when you meet someone who is seemingly normal it doesn't feel right which in part you veer into the arms of another roller coaster ride.

[Colour_buzzy]

I had similar problems too. Now that I have started psychotherapy, I am at least beginning to understand the reasons for this. We need to get rid of childhood traumas.

[Asker]

How do we get rid of them? I don’t think I can afford psychotherapy

[Colour_buzzy]

I still haven't get rid of them either, but maybe videos and books on the internet can help

[Summeroflove]

If you’re intentionally after bad men. You’re probably a bad person yourself.


If people are great at first. Well bad people many times try to manipulate good people.

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like some serious issues with self worth and other childhood traumas.

[Iron_Man]

Good luck to the next boyfriend that comes along. It seems like you like to come and go a lot.

[Anonymous]

Wow that's sick. Sounds like somebody i know who does the exact same thing and she cheats on me knowing full well how much her actions hurt me

[Opinion Owner]

Let me tell you something. I been deeply in love w Demi for over 5 years. We fight like any other couple would but in the end i still love her with all my heart & soul. Unfortunately she has the exact same bad habit you do and cheats on me which is why we fight as much as we do because it hurts seeing her do this w other guys.

[Opinion Owner]

It's heartbreaking to watch the woman i love do that with other guys. It kills me inside. 5 years how i feel about her is true love

[Figurine89]

Because it's what you're used to. It's hard to breaking the habit

[Anonymous]

If you meet a normal guy, that normal person will seem boring to you so you will avoid him.

[_Just_A_girl_]

R u used to it prior?

[Rockstarrrrr]

Probably self esteem issues...

[In_Trance]

The Law of Attraction says "Like Attracts Like"