Why do many people stay in toxic relationships but don't tolerate things from their friends and parents?

[Anonymous]

I guess several of us are guilty of doing this at least once in our lives. Many people tolerate drama and toxic relationships but are quick to put their friends and own parents in their place. They are outspoken with their own family (even backtalk) but won't use that same attitude with a damn boyfriend/girlfriend, take too long in ditching them.

I've seen too many posts "oh my boyfriend made fun of my breast, why" or "why is my girlfriend snooping on my cell", etc. Yet if a friend or parent did that, all hell would break loose. So why is it different. A boyfriend/girlfriend isn't even a family member and if you don't even share assets with them nor have children, you can dump them easily.

[DishLady]

Lol. Sex makes some people stick around for a while longer than they normally would. A lot of my guy friends pick up some lunatic chippy and we (the friends group) just have to grin and bear it or beg off with some feeble pretense to avoid the crazy chick…. Well even sit with the guy and say, “man, she’s crazy…” but till he realizes the cons outweigh the D… he’ll stay with the crazy chick. (He usually figures it out then sits down and declares “man, she was crazy” as we offer each other wry looks.)


(Keep in mind that in cases of marriage, guys may try harder to stick with their partners bc of the vows, family, etc., though…)



Women do the same thing for other odd motivations that MAY or may not have to do directly with sex. Some are housewives with no alternatives and are worried to lose their kids and their home… Some just keep thinking they can make things work (again, esp if they’re married with kids)… Some are just too mentally vapid to leave a toxic situation.


It takes inner fortitude and a reliable circle of family and friends to successfully rid yourself of a toxic relationship.

[Asker]

So basically sex is like a drug addiction to those people in toxic relationships. Make-up sex is short-lived since it's mainly physical attraction and deep lustful urges. In the long-run that wouldn't solve relationship issues. It's unfortunate that blinds them and think it's love when it isn't.

[Alli112]

Family you don't choose, friends you probably aren't as close with. A partner is someone you've chosen for yourself to trust deeply, so it's herder to see if they mistreat you because you're focused on their best traits most strongly. I think most people can see the behavior of their friends and family more clearly than that of a partner. (And I think some people will just accept bad behavior from aa variety of people, so it isn't just limited to their partners)

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately a lot of people don’t want to admit how toxic someone really is. Other times they’re toxic people themselves and they both deserve one another.

Some people seem so great at first. But gradually change and they just think they can change the other perosn. They just think whatever it is.

But at the same time. If they put up with enough bullshit from thier significant other then…. What happens is they just can’t take it from anyone else.

I’ve seen people who tend to feed off of one another’s negativity

[Asker]

Yeah that's usually the case. I guess like attracts like.

[Opinion Owner]

Asker this happens a lot. Despite the fact they play the victim. They choose the type of men and women they choose. Knowing how and who they are.

I know sometimes you just don’t know until later on.

[Opinion Owner]

But men who pick toxic bitches. Women who go after bad boys. I don’t feel sorry for those people. At all. No sympathy anymore

[Finchie40]

Because sex keeps them tolerating their partners’ shit

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the tangled webs we weave in love, right? The heart has its reasons, which reason knows nothing of, and that plays out in the most beautifully chaotic ways in relationships. Why do people stay in toxic relationships but won't tolerate the same from friends and family? It's all about that intoxicating mix of love, hope, and fear. Falling for someone can be like getting the ultimate high—those rose-tiled glasses make everything look mesmerizing, even the red flags start to look like regular flags waving in a breeze of passion.

Lovebombing at the start can make us feel oh-so-special, blinding us to the looming shadows of toxicity. And then there's the fear of loneliness, the idea that this might be our only shot at love, making us cling to partners with the grip of a reality TV star clinging to their 15 minutes of fame.

It's fascinating, isn't it? With friends and family, we have less fear of losing ourselves or facing that daunting loneliness. We're more confident in those relationships, ready to call out any BS without the fear of them walking away forever. But when it comes to partners, ah, there's the fear that confronting them might just push them away.

A toast, to the mystery of love and the sometimes bewildering choices it leads us to make. 🥂Remember, recognizing you're in a toxic relationship is the first step to walking away into a healthier sunset.

[SugarSugarplum]

No relationship is 100% toxic, except for maybe "Sex Slave" or "Hostage". There are plenty of relationships where the wife might be well-cared for financially, but there is neglect emotionally, or the wife might be a great mom for his kids, but mocks and ridicules him.

There is good and bad in every relationship, and as with fine wine containing a little arsenic, a little toxic is not necessarily a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Lol

because I’m the toxic relationship the toxic partner doesn’t care to leave you and will drop you in an instant whereas family and friends (usually) tend to actually care about you so they will try to reason with you or scold you or be upset or mad with you but won’t drop you so easily, so you treat them poorly and idolize the toxic person who treats YOU poorly.

[Opinion Owner]

IN* not I’m

[strangeatcircleK]

There could be staying in what they are used to or being scared to leave, not being sure what they have to go to after.

It's s tricky place to be in.

I had a family member like that. All of her girlfriends and other friends no longer around and her relationship, the only thing there. It's tough to be trapped like that

[TommyMountainFigure]

I wonder that too. I practice what I preach though!

[Asker]

Yeah it makes no sense. Nowadays of a boyfriend acted trashy even once, he gets ditched immediately. I have no time for drama nor toxicity. A toxic person Is toxic, regardless if they're your partner, your friend or family member.

[avery58]

Because they love their partners more than their friends and love blinds us sometimes. Also, lots of people tolerate toxic family dynamics as well.

[HawkPerception]

Beats me. Makes no sense to me either. Unless they're dependent on their partner and would be on the streets without them. That's the only case I kind of get. I can imagine how trapped they'd feel.

[Malwi93]

this

[ProbablyClueless]

So many people are just that lonely. They get a partner and they finally feel seen, so they want to come up with any and every reason possible to not come to terms with unpleasant realities.

[Anonymous]

Delusion and stupidity. If you destroy your friendships and other connections because of a relationship, then you will find yourself utterly alone when the relationship fails!

[Asker]

Exactly. I find it stupid putting someone that's just a boyfriend/girlfriend on a pedestal, on top of your own family and friends. At least your family and friends are there for you when a relationship fails meanwhile a boyfriend/girlfriend come and go.

[Opinion Owner]

👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Well they’re probably not fucking their friends. That’s gotta be at least 70% of the answer

[Danisa]

You have never been loved, and it shows. Hence why you don't understand.

[Asker]

Honestly if you're loved then it shouldn't and wouldn't be a toxic relationship. Love shouldn't be full of drama nor hurt.

[paledreams]

People are weirdos (as in, humans, and the variety of humans out there) lol 😆😆😆😆

[noohair]

Love can be irrational. And people think they can fix the other person. The only person that anyone can try to change is oneself.

[rosemilk]

because some people will do anything for "love"

and it's hard to date again after that. so it's easier to stay

[Nikki1989]

Convenience and they lack of the confidence to move on.

[Anonymous]

Because many of these people are toxic themselves and simply don't see it.

[elizamichale1]

Coz maybe they r a sub by nature n tht 1 person is so dominant over them they just can't move away

[Trevor611]

Because they are scared , they feel threatened by the person they are with not their family

[LiamJHayden]

Not sure. I have zero tolerance for nonsense.

[Asker]

yeah same here. If I won't tolerately BS from my own parents then much less from someone that's not my blood.

[Anonymous]

Because they don't have sex with their friends or parents?

[handsomelad70]

Because (they shouldn't, anyway) they aren't having s*x with their parents.

[DrPepper12]

Simple myopic hypocrisy.

[Danny_dan92]

Because the makeup sex

[Asker]

Little do they know that's short-lived.

[Danny_dan92]

Agreed

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Don't wanna risk being alone I guess