Why are labels in a relationship such a bad thing now , don’t that make things easier?

[Justneedtokno]

[Gent207-2]

Relationship lables help establish the parameters and expectations within a given relationship. Each parameter and expectations forms a series of spoken and unspoken rules.

When these rules are broken or expectations are in conflict, the results can be lethal erupting into a scandal that results in emotional distress or a domestic dispute turn homicide.

[Summeroflove]

Most of it just seems stupid to me.

[Justneedtokno]

Please explain

[Summeroflove]

Well. People just like to out titles on things. Even if it really makes no sense.

Like friends with benefits and more or whatever else. Exclusive. Official. Whatever.

[Summeroflove]

Sometimes it makes sense and has a reason sometimes not

[Justneedtokno]

I think most people just want a clear definition of what’s going on and they don’t want to be blindsided. To know if y’all are heading to be together for a minute or a moment I think when you have a label on things, it takes the expectations or curiosity it out of it And confusion

[Summeroflove]

Yeah that’s true. There is legitimate ones don’t get me wrong.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Because labels are very general and non specific. It’s like seeing the world in black and white when it’s all shades of grey. Relationships are not just black and white.

[Justneedtokno]

But her relationship is plain and simple. You’re either with a person or you’re not there is no kinder you’re dating in a relationship or nothing at all

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Relationships are not plain and simple. If you think that I hate to disillusion you.

[Justneedtokno]

It’s really not that complicated either you like the person or you don’t like the person that’s it I think we make it more complicated with all the extra additives such a situationships talking phases in a bunch of dating a married person or cheating

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Yeah. Try that out and remember what I said when it’s not happily ever after.

[Justneedtokno]

And if it’s not happily ever after, then, you can leave the situation

[Changiis07]

Maybe because it's just so easy to walk away nowadays not many value a relationship or a marriage

[KrakenAttackin]

True dat.

[AviatorTom]

What label to use is a judgment call, an opinion, and often the subject of "discussions". Why risk that?

[Gent207-2]

Because to not risk it puts you at odds of cheating or misunderstanding the expectations that each person hold for the other.

[SnowedIn]

I'd say that labels would be a good thing IF they were expansive enough. The problem is that there isn't a label that accurately captures nuance and flavor of the people and the relationship.

[Makeushiver]

I think labels in general interfere with truly being present and approaching reality as it should be and as it best appreciated. Labels are shortcuts and save some energy but often stop you from lkooking beyond them since they're already categorized

[UniquelyBasic]

You mean like having a breadwinner and a stay-at-home wife label?

[Justneedtokno]

More like relationship phases before becoming a wife

[Jamie05rhs]

It's because this new generation hates accountability.

[BJP21]

Define which labels you are referring to?

[Justneedtokno]

The relationship phases

[BJP21]

At the end of the Infatuation and Honey Moon phase it should be easier YES it will put you to the test of compatibility. You discover how both are alike and not alike.