If you're talking about the labels of fiance', partner, girl or boyfriend, lover, friends with benefits... yes. You need to know what your PARTNER thinks you are to them. That means you need to know their definition of your place in their life.
Maybe your man thinks you're a friends with benefits and you consider HIM a boyfriend. Well that is Venus and Mars: far too far apart and with far different expectation.
Friends with benefits are sex partners ONLY. A boyfriend is someone you call when you've got a flat or need a cup of sugar or someone to help unclog your toilet if the guy knows how... friends with benefits are not there for ANYthing like this. They don't go out to movies with you, listen to your shit, or let you cry on their shoulders.
Boy or girlfriends are just that: real friends. People who care about you. FWBs are people who care about having SEX with you. They don't want you calling unless you're calling for that reason. They DO NOT WANT EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT. A boyfriend/girlfriend WANTS that!
If you have a finace', then marriage should be in your near future: about one year out. If you've had a fiance' for more than 2 years, something's off. Get a time limit on fiance'ship. If it's dragging on beyond 2 years, marriage is probably unlikely. It was a stalling effort.
A partner is someone you don't plan to marry, but you're involved with for the long haul: children, goals together, travel, love etc. It's a marriage without the civil papers and recognition.
A lover is someone who's above and beyond a friends with benefits... but might be in a nebulous zone. You might not be able to call this person to help change your tire or to cook dinner with. But maybe you WILL soon enough...
So, labels NEED TO BE CLEARLY DEFINED BETWEEN YOU TWO as in, you need to know what he or she means by what she or he dubs you. People have completely different ideas about labels they. use. MAKE SURE YOU UNDERSTAND WHERE THEY'RE COMING FROM!!! AND GOOD LUCK!
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Yes? It helps you understand where the relationship is going with someone. Everything has a label these days, try going into a store and you see nothing is labeled, no aisles, no price tag, no label to show you exactly what you're buying. You would become confused and frustrated quickly and most likely leave the store. It's the same with relationships, people want to know if you're taking their time and them seriously, they want to know if you see them as a potential part or not.
If I was single and talking to guy and he told me he's not really into lebels and all that, I would automatically assume he's just trying to fool around and not look for anything seriously. That way if I get caught up in my feelings, he can turn around tell me we were never serious cause we didn't put a label in our relationship/situationship.
In defining why we need Labeling for Relationship let's start why we do NOT "want them": 1. they are an assigned and clearly defined Value. 2. they are representative of one's true feelings and the other standing in their individual live. 3. They come with Expectations and all behaviors are viewed through those lenses.
Security, as defined through labels means security, expectations, results, It is likely that this guy will not feel the freedom to chase what moves or suddenly leave and decide another woman is worthy of a labeling as say girlfriend or fiance'. The one pushing for the label with opposition should realize that their perceived partner is not a relational serious individual.-If they were, they would end the Insecurity factor, man-up, and accept responsibility for actions or behavior.
On thing for sure, I would not sleep with you to get it. If one can not freely assign Value or Label then that individual and i have no business in trying to be together.
It really does depend on what we're talking about. Labels like "wife" or "girlfriend" etc. are helpful and just simplify communication. Other labels are less helpful and still others should be jettisoned.
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Of course! That way there is no confusion as to WHAT you are and like that other person #BCRanger10 said, it gives it importance! They don't call it "SIGNIFICANT OTHER" or "OTHER HALF" for nothing!
Otherwise, why even HAVE a special anyone or anything if it's not going to matter who or what it is you are treating special or have more attention to? !
What do you mean by labels? I’m sorry if you have already addressed this. The site is not loading properly for me.
They aren't. I don't get the questions "about making it official" The only thing official is a marriage license.
What do you mean? What labels are you talking about?
I don’t know How you don’t label someone. Like are they your friend acquaintance enemy girlfriend? Like we all have a label of who we are.
Labels in relationships I think 🤔 are necessary. What else would you call the person when talking about them to others?
Somewhat, in order to avoid confusion. Lots of question have been asked on here like "Are we boyfriend and girlfriend?" Discussing the level of commitment can help people to avoid problems like, "I thought we were together because we went out twice, but then I saw him with another girl."
Because people need to be clear and upfront about what they want going forward. It's difficult enough to find someone compatible and to avoid hurt feelings over misunderstandings without being on the same page to begin with.
Yes. It gives a relationship stability, direction, and purpose.
Clarity of ones position and status is important so one can set expectations and know what is expected
I think it makes things easier and understandable there’s no guessing and you know what stages or steps you’re currently in I don’t know where this generation gets off on no titles so weird
I would say yes. The labels help clarify what kind of romantic relationship you're in or what level you're at with them. If you like calling your partner something else instead of boyfriend or girlfriend, that is fine too.
what kind of labels?
A bit a labels can be ok with being in relq relationships. Doesn't confused people.
YES! THEY ARE! If you do not want to be called my girlfriend, you do not deserve to be treated like a girlfriend!!
We don’t need labels. We want them because we are lazy and ignorant.
because a girlfriend is not a wife. you can say you want to commit to her but never do it. thats why there are labels.
Well even if you die your family needs to declare you dead at social security as -dead-
That’s how life worksWhich labels?
Because people think they matter
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