Should marriage be abolished?

[Anonymous]

Men see it as women want to take their money. Women see it as men want to make women their property. What are your thoughts?

[BeMuse]

All you have to do is take the government out of it. If it is a religious agreement between two people, then they have to take that up with their God how they treat their spouse. If you have title to property it's yours to take with you if you go your separate ways. Child custody should always be split between the parents. Child support should not exists. If you make those changes then everything is honest. You make vows to each other based on your own word and within your own religion/faith. You both have equal responsibility and rights over your shared children. Anything you pay for and earn is your own. Women don't want equality and honest relationships though. They want power. That's where your problem is. That's why marriage and birth rates are declining.

[BeMuse]

All this crap with divorce settlements, alimony, and child support are all new experimental concepts that have only existed for a couple generations. For example the U. S. child support collection system was set up in 1975. No fault divorce started in 1969 in California. Obviously poor results have been observed and those concepts don't work. Government ruined human relationships. That have no place in people's personal lives and they should get the fuck out of them.

[BeMuse]

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[misogynistic_pig]

Right now marriage is practically abolished as it no longer works as it was created, serial monogamy through divorce and remarriage is essentially promiscuity vertically over time rather than horizontally in the present. Marriage worked when monogamy was institutionalized

[AmyHew1tt]

I think these opinions are just magnified on the internet, and the average person you come across won't be so extreme. It is really sad though.

And no, I don't think it should be abolished.

[Summeroflove]

If people marry for love. This isn’t the case

[AmeerX]

Wtf, why abolish marriage?

No, it is the only protection against fall out of family system. What will you do with inheritance? With rearing children? How will things go by?

No way Marriage is most important event in a person's life

[RavVid]

Well with a median length of 8 years for a marriage, 50% of fathers are not substantially involved in raising their children. So that horse has well and truly bolted well down the road.

In terms inheritance, you're dead right, so who cares?

[AmeerX]

@RavVid well, I care. people can blast off the entire family system if the want but marriage is supposed to be a safeguard that the two belong together.
Even if the couple isn't married legally and just do church marriage they are married

[RavVid]

I certainly see your point and if it wasn't already broken I'd agree wholeheartedly. For myself I'm not going to be a $perm donor because it is not worth it.

The major problem is the social mores that supported marriage are done and dusted. You could say get rid of no fault divorce but one partner can still make it completely non viable eg continuous cheating. A long time ago there would have been social implications to behaving badly in a marriage but not now.

Sadly 8 year marriages are the 50% norm and that isn't long enough to be viable. I don't disagree with your view at all on what should be but I can't avert my eyes from what is. That is the difference between us.

[slatyb]

Many people do get married. It's a legal state, that's all. The legal consequences vary by location.

[Mansearching]

No. Women who want money or property are gold-diggers and men who want a piece of property are shovenistic pig scum bags.

[Anonymous]

I do think that the government should stay out of people's relationships. There shouldn't be any legal contracts involved.

[LiamJHayden]

No. People should be free to enter the often miserable state of marriage if they so desire.

[Asker]

Does that mean anyone’s parents who is still married is miserable?

[LiamJHayden]

I said often, not always, but sure, a lot are.

[BJP21]

Divorce needs to be. Part ways without wasting court resources and turning bitter.

[Anonymous]

Marriage in concept is still fine. Divorce needs a lot of work. Women need a lot of work.

[RavVid]

Get rid of it. Past it's use by date.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Your discription is not a universal truth

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope marriage is a beautiful thing

[In_Trance]

No I don't think so