What makes a relationship work?

[Anonymous]

Should we end it if we fight about our relationship often. He says I'm not perfect, but he is also not. We except each other but I guess not completely

[Effably]

You should end it if you want to. Not if we say so.

In general though, if you are happy and the relationship is not a significant negative influence all is well.

If we're looking at established research there is actually no link at all between how well a couple do and how much or little they fight. It just does not matter much - of course the bias is that only couples lasting several months are looked at.
What does matter is conflict resolution. Coping mechanism. How you resolve the fight.

In fact avoiding conflict in a relationship has a proven detrimental impact on its longevity. Shouting at each other does not have any proven benefits or demerits to it.

[Asker]

Thats why I wanna resolve problems so that there wouldn't be resentment in the future over not mentioning them at all. Now I started to think that this might be toxic

[Effably]

You've got the right mindset. Resolving problems is the way. Not having any problems is an unrealistic fantasy.

[FilmGuy93]

A lot of it is just kinda deciding that you've found your person and you want to make things work.

Loving someone is a choice, even if the act of being in love isn't.

[LiamSawyer]

Noone is perfect.