What makes relationships last 😍😍?

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IDontBelieveIt · Accepted Answer

In no particular order, Love, caring, Consideration, both being thoughtful of your other half, honesty, giving compliments, don't put your SO down (belittling), making them feel worthless and useless, you both want to make your SO laugh, someone that would prefer you being happy than unhappy is a keeper, if they don't they are a control freak tell 'em to get on their bike, they won't change, the one on the receiving end will have a life of misery they will end up broken and struggle to get out later, talking (if you can't talk things out as speaking something that is niggling can be more hurtful) when I was looking at doing Counselling one suggestion is both write down what the issue is, be diplomatic, then swap the notes over, do it when your both calm. If you are both open and willing to how the issue (s) can be resolved, it can work. I have known it to work then the female decided to cheat again so relationship ended because she wasn't willing to change. For sex you both need to give each other pleasure and feel loved and special, at one time sex was man would have his orgasm but the woman wouldn't so most felt hurt, thankfully things have changed for most and their are brilliant guys that will ensure there is time focused on given her an orgasm (s). For my example I was 26 in 1988 I didn't know much about sex apart from intercourse, my girl gave me my first BJ, I enjoyed it, I could have just kept getting pleasure from her and not returning, but I went and searched how I could pleasure her, I learnt about the g-spot, next time I put what I learnt into practice, near the end she was trying not to let go but I pursued that was why I was there so she could experience the joy like she did for me. She was my only girl I slept with she told me no one had ever done that for her and that I was her ninth. That was in 1988. Thank goodness there are many more guys that think of their girls and give those extra special moments. sorry gone off a bit there but its imperative not to be selfish, if things get a bit stale maybe try doing something different bit risky, humour try to get on the same wavelength if you can bounce of each other you get each others humour it can help through any difficult times, if your other half has had a miserable or stressful day tell them a joke, learn to be playful ticker ling, when you have children try to get alone time in each others company, try making decisions together people that are stubborn can cause rifts, if someone demands they want something their way no if's or buts without talking no chance of compromise you got big problems, if someone has money as a goal at the top of their list its not the person they want just what they can get it won't work long term. if your SO shares doing things, e. g. some guys won't change the loo roll when its run out.. why you got hands use 'em? wash the shower/ bath out after you've used it, run them a bath with bubble bath, have scented candles Remember their anniversary and birthday. your other half could help prepare the veg's so you can talk about their day. Ask how their day was give them time to talk, be a good listener getting things off their chest lightens their load they probably won't want you to sort the problem out for them, go out for meals, if one stays at home while the other is at work, it can get depressing and lonely so you both need to suggest days out the person going to work might not notice so talk NEVER bottle things up it can damage your relationship. There will be more by I have rabbited for too long..

ohshee · Accepted Answer

You have to be 100% honest with yourself and know exactly who you are. You have to know exactly what you want. And you have to know exactly where you're going. When you find a person that is just like this and have the same goals didn't you understand respect and trust each other there is no boss. There is nobody that wears the pants. You become one and you work life with each other everyday. There is trust honor respect love dislike common sense with everything that you both do there's not a put-down there's a buildup do not lie. For the very first lie it is done and it's over with. You don't have to question your partner if you do it's on its way down hill anytime there's any negative it's on his way down hill once you lose respect it's over with we all have an energy that is inside of us if you can Bond both of us energy is one of the most beautiful things you ever feel and understand in life if you are a couple it will never work if you are a team to become the best for each other that's what it will last forever

waitingoncourage · Accepted Answer

-Respect space and time. Spending time with your partner is always a good thing to help your relationship grow, but giving each other some space every now and then is another important factor in making a relationship last.

-Admit that you are wrong.
We have all been in the situation where as much as you don’t want to admit it, you are wrong in some sort of disagreement. Sometimes you should just swallow that pride of yours, and admit that you were wrong. If your partner really cares, they will remember step 2, and forgive you.

-Forgive. Everybody makes mistakes. This is a cold hard fact of life. If you truly care about the person you are in a relationship with, you have to learn to forgive them for their mistakes. Holding grudges toward one another is very toxic in a relationship, and is definitely not something you want to do if you want your relationship to last.

-Lastly, do not try to “plan” your relationship. If you try to do this, the chances that something is not going to go like you wanted to is pretty high, and that could end what could have been a pretty fulfilling relationship. Some of the best relationships are built on being spontaneous and passionate, and if you try to plan out how it’s going to work, it usually will not.

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

Being able to be the real weirdo you are, you're SO being able to be the real weirdo they are & you both loving & accepting the weirdo you're with.

My boyfriend actually mentioned how weird of a couple we were because he looked up to Jim Carrey in Ace Ventura as a kid & i looked up to Morticia Addams as a child, which totally makes sense with our personalities as adults. It works out well for us 😊 i got my Gomez & he got the tribal princess from the second Ace Ventura movie 😂

Browneye57 · Answer

You have to place the RELATIONSHIP at the top - make it the most important thing. Above any petty differences. Both have to be committed to keeping it working, keeping it together.

Love and relationships are about GIVING, not what you GET out of it. Winning anything over the other benefits neither.

I think the number one thing we learned from a competent counselor is how to discuss differences. If you can't discuss a topic like rational adults, without escalating, then table it for later. This give each time to reassess their position and calm their emotions, find a way to compromise. You may have to come back to it several times, or you may even find you simply agree to disagree. There isn't a single person the planet that you'll agree on everything with. NOT ONE PERSON. So don't make disagreements more important than the relationship.

And never lose sight of doing and giving to your partner. There is never room for tit-for-tat. Things will never be equal. EVER.

Affirm your love daily. Make sure your partner knows they're the best thing that's ever happened to you, that they're the most important thing in your life. And if they're not, cut them loose and find one that is.

Andres77 · Answer

Loving the other more than yourself.
Love means you're vulnerable.
It doesn't mean you become a doormat.
Sometimes your love might not be enough for them. So then you have to protect yourself and leave, not seeking vengeance. Still hoping that they get better but not allowing them to hurt you further.
They might need a little time to get through the dark place. They might not get through it.

Listen, you'd have to talk to my wife.
I can't take credit for any of this.
I can only tell you what I remember and think I figured out. She knew this and acted on it when she was about 20 when we first got married.
She's the one that got me into therapy.
It saved our marriage.

Overmind · Answer

Rock her world like no other guy has before. Every women has certain spots on her body that a skilled man can caress, lick, kiss or pull that will make her melt :) Running well manicured nails lightly over the skin.. They can vary greatly amongst women.

I've drove some over the edge where they are literally ripping my close off. I'm not sure what else to call it; giving them the tingles is what it is. They will convulse when done right.

I know a relationships not all about sex but it's a very important factor & why not be the best partner you can be for the one you love? & everyone already seemed to mention the important parts like trust & communication, very important to any relationship.

ButterflyHope · Answer

No matter long you have been together, don’t stop doing sweet little gestures for them. It’s good to be comfortable in a relationship but don’t get TOO comfortable.
Example, once you have them, keep doing those little things you did in the start of your relationship for them. (Planning dates, buying them gifts, telling them how beautiful/handsome they are)

natured · Answer

Collaboration and commication for me, 7 year relationship here and we're happy, we talk a lot we stick through thick and thin and we literally never hide anything from each other. It obviously took us a while to get there, but when there is collaboration the rest will be easy.
NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT THOUGH.

Nik1hil · Answer

You are absolutely sure!
You want to know..

It's very simple!..
It takes 2 things-
1) "As long as a man make a women feel good about herself and make her feel happy".
2) " As long as a women make her man feel masculine and manly about himself."

These 2 factors are key to sustaining any relationship

genericname85 · Answer

having regular dates and spending a few hours a week just talking about what is important in your individual live rightnow. keeping up with each other, making sure your individual life goals are still aligned is often neglected. i'd say that's one of the biggest reasons for people drifting apart.

Anonymous · Answer

You're probably going to work out that they are wildly different to you, with views of their own, and things you don't like or irritate you.
And they about you.
How you both handle your differences will be telling.
Over time your attitudes and personality change. You can either grow together or apart. Never forget why you first chose them.

lucas262 · Answer

Choosing.

1 day the love of your life it may be a battle just to look them in the eye in the morning. That's when love becomes a choice. Where the commitment part comes in. Most fools run go divorce or stay instead of putting in 100% effort into it. If. Both people try for the other ride or die. That's Something you can work with.

HawkPerception · Answer

The through thick and thin mentality; Never giving up on your partner.  Honesty/trust, communication and chemistry (similar views, interests, goals, sense of humor, way of communicating, etc.)

Starrisunset · Answer

Honesty, respect, loyalty, love, affection and just both of you putting in the effort to make it work. Make sure you both have a voice in the relationship and you're both willing to hear what the other person has to say.

weysally · Answer

there are many reasons, again not in order but mine are as follows. 1/ trust and love/like 2/ conversations 3/ humour 4/ same era of likes and dislikes, 5/ time apart, 6/ sex giving and receiving

Anonymous · Answer

Let us take a different approach to the answer to this question.

Your man, boyfriend or husband has lost his job and lost all his money. Will you stay with him and cooperate to make the relationship last?

There's your answer. This will determine what makes relationships last. You are welcome.

SandandWaves · Answer

A couples relationship? .. there's not a 2 anymore.. you are now a 1. you both need to be selfless. I like this song.. from Bryan Adams - when you love someone.   Relationships take work.

Kyesa · Answer

Honesty is often a big one.
General compatibility, like digging each-others vibe.
Acceptance for each-others flaws.
Trust- some feeling of safety when with them.
Commitment.
Loyalty.
Understanding yourself first.
Respect and compassion for each-other's boundaries may help.
Having similar views on how a relationship should be can be a good start.
Consistency might help too.
Being able to accept them even if they changed in some way.

tatianamay · Answer

Trust, loyalty, communication, honesty and love. To make the love last, you’ve gotta be all the other 4

DarkCarousel · Answer

Compatible interests, sharing time, similar goals and life outlooks, and compatible sex drives/interests.

exitseven · Answer

It is a lot of things. Trust , compassion, communication. Having a similar set of values and a common view of the world. Love, lust and physical attraction also comes in handy.

boggboss · Answer

Trust having alined morals and objectives in life communication

420Rachel · Answer

Communication and trust. 😌 Also this is very important, you have to be able to have fun together!

Azura_88 · Answer

Nowadays nothing.  No matter what you do, partners get bored of each other.  Everything is instant and always changing in today's world.

Hyaspist · Answer

Transparency. Its important that there are no secrets or tabu topics for you guys. Everything else is based on compromise.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Respect for each other, oh and sexual compatibility helps.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Trust, Respect, Honesty, Communication. The Four Pillars.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It very simple. Never quit.

Jackson8650 · Answer

Being able to look across the table from your spouse, and agree that there is nothing that could separate you. Forgiveness, sacrifice, mercy, understanding.

Crazyb33 · Answer

Treat your partner how u want to be treated and don’t stop trying like u did when u first meet

adventurous-1 · Answer

work, the effort is its own reward and nothing worth having is ever truly easy. Do you apricate a dollar you earned more than one you found, I do.

Finchie40 · Answer

Removing selfishness for each other , communication , valuing each other , and lots of sex

Anonymous · Answer

Instant familiarity when you first meet. Almost immediately, you know what they're thinking and how they'll respond. Then we start to finish each others thoughts. Almost spooky.

_bunny_ · Answer

Well honestly trust and communication that's how I have kept my relationship going strong

james_d0007 · Answer

Honesty Trust Understanding Respect Friendship Main thing from the above I would say is trust, if you don't have trust no relationship will last ever

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Communication, trust, empathy, time apart can't be around eachother all the time

Ekvark · Answer

Communication, laughter, story telling, and music. in my opinion

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Communication / Trust / Unconditional love / Faithfulness

Aquariusmystery · Answer

No matter how hard things get, you need to fight for it. But also you need to let go if your needs are being ignored.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

I think if 2 people care about each other, try to see things from the other's point of view, and work through any problems, it will last.

friendzoned4life · Answer

Very simple trust me and give me no reason to not trust you.

denzelcho · Answer

ig determination, understanding, communication, a little less of being yourself but not lose the whole essence of it, and a little change for the better of your relationship but of course there are always more...

Anonymous · Answer

Trust. Being each others' best friend. Shared interests. Supporting each other's passions. Compatibility (emotional, mental, sexual).

LogicalGal123 · Answer

Trust and communication. Everything else will fall into place.

Anonymous · Answer

Two good people who care about each other and put the needs of the other before their own. And importantly, it takes REAL, HONEST commitment, something that is uncommon today, especially among women.

loveslongnails · Answer

You don't make a big deal out the small stuff, and most of it's small stuff.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I think it is a simple matter of both wanting to stick around, and do…

Rennitenn · Answer

Good sex. Hate to say it and it won't keep one going long alone. But without it the ship wants to run off the road.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

mutual trust, mutual respect, loyalty, discussing every issue/matter with your partner etc ;)

MrJMM · Answer

Someone not trying to immediately sleep with me and just to use me.

moviedude714 · Answer

More effort from the guy than the woman that's for sure

Anonymous · Answer

Women who appreciate men as people and not as financial and sperm donors

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Be the best thing a person ever had and they will never let you go. Be that for each other.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Putting in work and not relying on the idea that’s relationship is supposed to be easy.

jennlynn512 · Answer

Respect being best friends honesty being loyal and don't change but it's more about being a real good friend best  friends love

Romeocuck · Answer

True and deeper conversation as well as taking some pausa from sex every 2 weeks when you are on your period

Anonymous · Answer

A mortgage maybe, or fear of breaking up and living alone rest of the life

Jonny13413801 · Answer

Communication & the ability to make each other laugh.

xiphantom · Answer

honesty , love , good communication and a lot of food

Anonymous · Answer

Mystery Constantly improving yourself Adding value wherever possible

robocop666 · Answer

pleasant orgasms and people who are good at giving them

RickVienna · Answer

A good big cock, Sex minimum once a week, he can eat out pussy, trust , love and FLR

yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo · Answer

Communication and patience

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