Do you consider a romantic relationship between cousins as incest?

[AmyHew1tt]

I'm curious because where I live it's not legally incest, but many people still consider it that way from what I've seen.

Yes, it's incest

No, it's not

I don't have a strong opinion either way.

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1 y

This is not about me, lol. I found out some family members who are together are cousins. They weren't raised together, and didn't get together until their mid twenties. Neither sides of the family have or had a problem with it. I don't either, but I'm curious about the general opinion.

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1 y

I used the wrong word in the question. Yes, it's incest, but what I really want to know is how you consider it morally

[AviatorTom]

Some places call it incest, which is interesting, because royal families have been marrying their cousins for centuries.

The risk of close relatives marrying, more importantly having children, is that that they can pass genetic defects on to their offspring... because of their similar DNA.

[AmyHew1tt]

Yeah, I know it's technically incest, but for some reason, it doesn't bother me? As long as if you plan on having children you consult a specialist first.

[Amy10223]

To marry a cousin that is a distant cousin, may not be too immoral. However, the son of your mother or father's brother, is too close to family for me. I would not even consider marrying a 3rd cousin. Family is family. There are states that allow it-- but it's not moral to me. Even if it is family within the Royals, as one responder said here--that doesn't make it right. Now, considering this... bibically, Adam and Eve were the first humans on the earth, and they had children. How did their children beget other children? There had to have been relations with brothers and sisters.

[Adaeva]

The risk for children of first cousins is increased by about 3%. That increases if the parents also married first cousins. The risk for second cousins is about the same as for unrelated parents.

[lucasnabizada]

Well... definition wise-it is factually incest. Two people from the same family and blood having romantic and sexual relationship is incest. Separate any emotion from it.. I don't know where you live but their legal definition of incest needs a work around and I would and as a legal student myself I would like to know what definition they are using if a cousins together is not incest...

[AmyHew1tt]

I used the wrong word. Obviously, it's technically incest, but I was wondering how many people think it's immoral.

[AmyHew1tt]

Given it is legal in some places, there must be some difference.

[lucasnabizada]

Ah okay... Morality is totally different.. In the west it is a big taboo, in some other cultures not so much. Morality is really the flavor of the day, it will probably depend on where you live

[AmyHew1tt]

Yeah, it seems so.

[Anonymous]

It's incest but more common than people think especially kids in their teens. I had a relationship with two of my cousins growing up. We were what you call a trouple today. Started with the 3 of us practicing kissing, mutual masturbation, playing with each other, anal sex then vaginal intercourse.

[AmyHew1tt]

I agree that it must be more common than people like to think. The weird thing is, few people seem to have a problem with it when it's just sex, or kissing, or whatever, but suddenly it's major incest the moment there's an actual relationship 🤷‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

I agree. If its just sex it's taboo and hot but if its emotional and a relationship with feelings its gross. That was my experience when we got found out by our parents. I got blamed because I was the guy yet it was all of then who basically checked out of their children's lives and left them alone and unsupervised for long periods of time, days and weeks sometimes

[elizamichale1]

No its not honey
N to be honest i dont believe in incest at all... sex is just sex whoever u do it with... relationships can always be kept apart from sex

[Levin]

I mean, that's pretty grim, man.

Is it a big thing in Canada?

[AmyHew1tt]

It's legal, but no, it isn't a 'thing,'

[Levin]

I suppose, maybe in the rural areas or something...

[AmyHew1tt]

Yeah, totally. We sacrifice babies under the full moon and shag with the wolves too

[Levin]

Do Canadians shag?

[AmyHew1tt]

All the time

[Levin]

Next you'll be telling me you guys wank.

[AmyHew1tt]

The guys certainly do, lol

[Levin]

The guys jerk it man, they don't wank!

This is cultural appropriation!

[AmyHew1tt]

The guys I've met wank, in their own words🤷‍♀️
We've got lots of British friends.

[Levin]

Show off.

[PraviteliNahuiValite]

It's incest by definition but if it doesn't gross you out personally, why not, it's not immoral.

[Anonymous]

I would say it's incestuous. If you like fucking your cousin then do it. If you enjoy it and it's not illegal or you don't see it as being wrong then continue. You can't find another guy that isn't family to fuck?

[Jaylenn]

It's more common then we know, I know a guy who is very close to his girl cousin

[Flower7]

Just because something is legal doesn’t mean it’s right. Cheating is legal also.

[lalaloveee]

Cousin? Even having a romantic relationship with your dog sounds better.

[BJP21]

To keep a family dynasty going it was pretty common during medieval times. In non Royal family dynasties it was common because hired help was hard to come by to work the farm.

[written-in-the-stars]

I think its alright. I don’t consider it incest. :) which country r u from though?

[AmyHew1tt]

I'm from Canada

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah, it sounds like incest

[Guy13]

Yes it is incest.

[Guy13]

Look Incest is the sexual relations amongst family members or those with a shared blood line. Cousins are a shared blood line. Cohabitation of blood line also falls under incest as it is assumed sexual acts are occurring by people of the same family blood line. within

[AmyHew1tt]

Sure, but I guess I meant do people consider it immoral? Because if they're siblings, then yeah, no question that's wrong. But marriage between cousins is legal in a bunch of places, so there's clearly some difference.

[Guy13]

Most states outlaw marrying cousins. Have you ever seen the movie Deliverance. YouTube, search Deliverance dueling banjos and see what Cousin marriage birth defect looks like. He can play some music though.

[AmyHew1tt]

They don't all create birth defects

[Guy13]

You obviously have no clue. Do some legwork on the subject matter and we will pick-up when you are much more informed legally, medically, psychologically, and philosophically.

[AmyHew1tt]

Why is it legal in some places then? If the risk was really so high, wouldn't it be banned everywhere?

[CuriousMufuxka]

About you or not, there's other options out there!

[AmyHew1tt]

I guess. But these people have been married for more than twenty years, so I suppose it works for some people.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Are they your parents? Kidding! Really I throw no judgement when it comes love unless blood related.

[AmyHew1tt]

Yes, actually. And judge if you like, as I'm personally fine with their blood situation. But I anticipated the general online view that they did something wrong, so I'm trying to gouge whether I should cover this fact when with other people. Really it's interesting. On the internet, people freak out about it, but IRL everyone's mostly chill and doesn't care.

[CuriousMufuxka]

For real I'm surprised that they are your parents! Otherwise I don't care.

[Anonymous]

anyone in your family, blood related, is incest.

[AmeerX]

It is not incest but I probably recommend against cousin marriages

[Anonymous]

It is a gray area. First cousins definitely. 2nd or 3rd not as much.

[weysally]

I think its legal in the UK,

[AmyHew1tt]

I think so. And where I live too.

[weysally]

where do you live may I ask

[AmyHew1tt]

Canada

[weysally]

oh, gosh what part, I do love Canada, but I have only been to the Yukon, but seen it many times from the air, well

[AmyHew1tt]

British Columbia :) Yeah, the air is nice. There are loads of mountains and forest areas. But it's so cold in the winter lol

[weysally]

well that would give me an excuse to buy warm clothes, also what ar the men like, they could keepme warm couldn't they,

[AmyHew1tt]

There aren't many where I am. At least not any interesting ones around my age. But yeah, Candian men are probably a safe bet if you want someone who knows how to keep you warm XD

[weysally]

not many young boys your age, any reason for that, I would have thought where there are girls the boys would follow,

[AmyHew1tt]

They're all just super immature, I guess, and more into excitement than actual relationships.

[weysally]

do they try and show off in front of girls well I like excitement , so I would feel at home, any good looking men or boys or just run of the mill ones

[AmyHew1tt]

They're not very show-offy from what I've seen. Nearly all the younger guys are kind of at their awkward stage still, kind of skinny and goofy, and not that attractive to me to be honest. But I don't know, what's your type? There are quite a few guys in their late twenties-mid thirties that I think most girls would find really handsome.

[weysally]

don't know about cousins, but the bush people of the Kalara desert, live in small group and don't meet upwith another group for many years they must commit incest because nature will call, there don't seem to be any side effects

[NathanDavis]

I call it weird AF...

[SnowedIn]

Doesn't matter.

[SnowedIn]

Regarding your update, I don't consider it morally wrong.

[Jennz6]

Maybe not 2nd cousins?