Do you think people really say things they don’t mean out of anger?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I got into an argument over something small. When he gets angry he says things that are hurtful. Today he said something that definitely wasn’t okay, and I know words sometimes have no meaning and actions speak louder than words, but it’s definitely scary. He said he wanted to k*ll me. And that if I didn’t change the way that I am, he would k*ll me. We’ve had situations like this before where he’ll say hurtful things and he’s said that he says things to hurt me bc he thinks it’s only way to stop the argument. Have you ever said something you didn’t mean? Do you think he just said it in the heat of the moment

[Guy13]

Nothing explodes without the ingredients and movement to combust. In your relationship case there seems to be underlying and below the surface emotional elements components which have not been addressed much less resolved.

A relationship can not handle but so many of these kinds of outbursts as it becomes a destructive habit and cycle. I would suggest both individual and couples counseling.

[D_Bone_Steak]

"Nothing explodes without the ingredients and movement to combust." These are some wise wise words.

[slatyb]

No, they say things they feel but are normally too inhibited to say. My wife and I never say unkind words to each other. Nor do we complain about our spouses to other people.

[Darrelyn]

I don't think killing it's something to take lightly and it's normal for a couple to get into argument and in the heat some wrong words might be coming out but with the purpose of hurting you it's too much and I don't think it's alright at all.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah but honestly there is always some truth behind the thing they say out of anger

[Brando10222]

Most of the time they are honest.