I’m worried about being alone and feel like I would definitely “settle” if the opportunity arose?

[Anonymous]

Rather than risk being alone forever if I found someone who I genuinely like likes me back I feel like that would be enough. I guess it’s kind of a depressing thought, but the risk is always being alone otherwise… I used to feel like there was plenty of time. But I’m starting to feel like the clock keeps ticking. And I need to be more proactive.

[Anonymous]

My advice:

How you do in mating depends on these 3 things:
1. The demand for what you offer
2. The quality of what you offer
3. The difficulty there is in replacing you

Of course none of these things matter if you never leave your house or get on a dating app.

[Asker]

I do a lot of the second thing. The first one I need to do more of.

[Opinion Owner]

People get what they are in harmony with. However, in terms of dating the rule only applies if you are around people. Leave everyone you meet with the impression of what you offer. If you offer kindness, convey to the minds of people you run into that you are kind. They must know it. Convey all that you offer to your date without sounding boastful. In fact, conveying kindness requires no words at all. Also you have to know what you want. Dating is about you vetting the other person too. Most people don't vet others. It's a horrible mistake to not vet someone before getting into a relationship with them. You must understand habitual characteristics and intent.

[Asker]

Define vetting people

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Is it really settling at some point? So they don't fit all your criteria or you didn't meet them at a preferred place, just go for it.