How do you know you love someone/ in love?

[Chelsdope0]

Do you feel your life is unimaginable without them?

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes, you do feel your life is unimagineable without them. But still... that doesn't do it justice. It's overwhelmingly intense. It's all-encompassing (when you fall in love) and... it's something you just can't imagine because it can't be described.

It's a thousand times stronger than any emotion you've ever felt. It is... the word I keep coming back to is "overwhelming". But that's a poor description. Although it IS overwhelming.

It's every bit like you'd imagine... but... in a similar way to a child's drawing of something vs. that actual thing.

You can get an idea of what a car looked like from a kid's drawing of one (assuming you'd never seen a car before). But not... really. You would still be surprised at what an actual real car looked like the first time. You'd recognize the general shape and the 4 wheels from the kid's drawing.

So that kid's drawing does give you an idea of what to expect. It's not 'wrong'. It's just nothing even close to the real thing. It's just a drawing, not a freaking car. Love is the actual car.

You'll recognize it for what it is when you get there. But still, it'll be better than you can possibly imagine from where you are now (looking at the drawing of that car and wondering how a real car might look and feel)

[Chelsdope0]

Is jealousy love?

[SteveSmith1985]

I'm assuming you're asking whether jealousy is a part of love. The answer is... jealousy can exist when you love someone. But it also exists when you don't.

People will feel jealousy in both love and not-love situations.

So jealousy doesn't tell you anything about whether or not you're in love.

Don't worry... if you fall in love. You won't wonder. You'll be more than positive what you feel is love. If you have to ask if it's love... it's not love

[WaterIsland]

It’s so easy to confuse lust and love. Lust can be the excitement of the situation and you don’t want it to fade. Love, is lasting and persistent.


For me personally, it’s when I feel comfort in a situation. When it’s simply “life together”. When everything you do in life, feels comfortable with that person. That is how personally, I know it’s not lust. It takes a long time to get there tho. But once that happens, and I still have deep feelings for the person, I know that is love.


But part of it also, isn’t logical. You have to be careful about lust vs love. But deep down, you’ll know when you’re in love.

[Guy13]

One just knows and it’s a deeper know than simply lust. It is earth shattering

[Chelsdope0]

Is love more about “knowing” or “getting to know”… you don’t know until you actually date

[Phoenix98]

I don't really know how to adequately explain it. It's a feeling of knowing that's really the best way of putting it a deep knowing feeling that what you feel is love or being in love.

[Chelsdope0]

Is love more about “knowing” or “getting to know”… you don’t know until you actually date

[Phoenix98]

What I meant by that when I say a feeling of knowing is that when you do genuinely love someone it's not a question it's an absolution in terms of feelings as in you know in your heart that you love this person and you just know that you do.

Obviously it takes work to get to that point a lot of things have to go right but the feeling I'm talking about is when you do get to that point.

[Chelsdope0]

Ohhh I thought it’s when you see someone around and instantly just know…

What about jealousy/possessiveness

[Phoenix98]

Well I mean that can happen but it’s incredibly rare.

You mean what it feels like?

[Chelsdope0]

Is it a sign of love

[Phoenix98]

I wouldn’t say love necessarily. Though I suppose you could look at those feels and say I’m small doses they can arise because your deeply attached to your partner.

[Chelsdope0]

I’m saying they do that and they aren’t your partner/boyfriend

[Phoenix98]

Then I’d say it’s more due to the following possible things

1# romantic feelings

2# they feel like they may lose someone they are attached to to someone else

3# they are controlling

[YourExLover69]

If I love a girl I would crave for her all day. Would be impatient to talk with her as much as possible. Feelings and understanding should be mutual though

[Anonymous]

it currently is unimaginable without her but i'm going through it. it's hell but what she put me through was also hell i was up against a double edged sword with her