Can 3 years make you look much older?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

When I first came to China I was 22 and people in the streets addressed me like “little lady”, “young lady”, that being said I was smiling all the time and was really happy and careless.

The pandemic forced me and my then-fiance to separate and we were physically unable to go to each other’s country. It was so painful for me emotionally I fell into a depression and cried literally everyday, was really stressed, had low-grade fevers for a year due to the stress and started having an anxiety, I was having dreams I was back in China and suddenly was forced to go back to my country and unable to see my fiance, those dreams woke me up with my heart feeling shaky and I was unable to fall asleep. The distance really hurt me emotionally and at that time the intense stress also deteriorated my health I guess. I think maybe all this stress got apparent on my face. I am now as healthy as always, no more anxieties or panic attacks, no more low grade fever.

I am now back in China after 3 years, single again and people on the streets address me like “beautiful lady”, I feel so hurt. I liked to be addressed like a little lady.

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2.5 years, I came back after 2.5 years.

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Here’s also an advice to girls, never cry or worry for a man, my fiancé was an angel, he was everything I could dream for in a man, but you see, in the end worrying and stress only harms you and nobody wants a crybaby, so don’t cry for anyone and don’t hurt yourself for anyone, even for the person you believe is the best and worthy of all those.

Nope. No one is worth that. If he was worth it, he would be next to me right now. So, not a single being is worth of you worrying over them.

[caring__1]

Just look at how much American presidents age during their term of office. Stress ages people. Focusing on things out of our control often leads to frustration and disappointment. The one thing most people focus on that will never be in their control is the choices another person makes. Don't attempt to predict or plan another person's life. Just make the most of and enjoy what exists in the present rather than dwell on what you expect to be in the future. Value people for who they are rather than the potential they can become.

[Truthatanycost]

Even one year can do that. Stress, anxiety, worry and depression will raise cortisol levels which accelerates the ageing process. It will also have an impact on other areas of the body, digestion and the skin.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I feel angry at myself for worrying this much for someone, who would not finally stay by my side.
He waited for 2 years, trying coming to me a few times and then gave up on our relationship 5 months before I managed to go back to his country.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He didn’t deserve all this stress and pain I went through. I must have kept living my life. I literally wasted 2 years crying.

[NathanDavis]

depends...

when I went from 13 to 16... there was a great difference for sure, lol

[Alex8736]

feeling over stressed and the feeling you are backed into a corner with no way out can do a number

[Anonymous]

No. You probably just act more mature now

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think maybe my eyes are more sad than before. Before than my eyes were really shiny and happy. I was smiling to everyone cause I felt like a celebrity. Now I don’t feel like that anymore, I even wear glasses to hide my eyes, I don’t really need glasses I just hide them because I don’t feel like people looking at my eyes anymore.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think the reason I was smiling all the time was that I was confident and felt like smiling at people cause everyone was staring.

Now I feel like I am not stared that often.

O wonder did I get that old in these 2.5 years or did they stare because I was smiling haha

[Opinion Owner]

Then reality came and slapped you in the face and made you look older.
I'm right there with you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

How do I look younger again 🤣 Should I smile to everyone like before and act like I still feel like a celebrity?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that could work, but your face will always portray what you feel on the inside. No matter how hard you try.
Either way, you're only 26 lol.
I highly doubt you look old.
Still young and fuckable I'm sure