Boyfriend talking to ex in the gym?

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend cheated on me in the first few months of dating, back 3 years ago. I thought we were in a relationship, but he clearly was lying. I went back and we are all good. No issues. But the girl he got with has a huge obsession with him. She stalks me on social media all this time. Has my Spotify playlist saved etc. my boyfriend is a fighter and teaches a class once a week. She moved county, but is back for a few weeks. At the class today he talked to her. She knows it’s his class and still showed up. She pretended to everyone that she was pregnant with him before, spoke bad of him etc. she talked to him tonight and my boyfriend said that she told him that she moved aboard and she asked him is it true that he changed jobs and that he works in a hospital now. She’s clearly doing her research on him. Am I wrong to over react with him talking to her?

[Anonymous]

I can understand why you might be feeling concerned and uncomfortable with your boyfriend talking to his ex, especially given the history of infidelity and the ex's behavior towards you.

It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns. Let him know how his interactions with his ex are making you feel and ask him to be transparent about their conversations and interactions.

At the same time, it's important to trust your partner and give him the benefit of the doubt. If he has been faithful and honest with you since the incident of infidelity, it's possible that he is simply being polite and professional towards his ex.

It is up to you to decide what you are comfortable with in your relationship and to communicate your needs and boundaries to your partner. If you feel that your trust has been broken or that your boyfriend's interactions with his ex are inappropriate, it may be time to reassess the relationship and consider if it's meeting your needs and making you happy.

[b-river]

Over reaction is different from boundaries. This is an inappropriate situation, and entirely unfair to you. Be collected, in control of yourself and speak in a way you know convinces your boyfriend. Don't over react and go steps further than you need. But do not mix up feeling and thinking what you are right now as over reacting. You need to have security in your relationship, and anyone would reasonably see that as improper action

[pink_blah]

he cheated and you guys got back together.. then he's talking to his ex… side eye fr. Talk to him

[Wise4myage]

He's a cheater, why bother staying with him?