How can I stop being so lonely?

[Anonymous]

I don‘t have many friends and I‘m single. I would really like to make new friends and especially find a boyfriend and I‘m trying, but I‘m shy so it‘s difficult for me. I often feel so lonely and I don‘t know what to do, it makes me feel so insecure as well. Have you ever felt like that? Do you have any tips? thank you 🩷

[Twalli]

Try to just talk to people briefly. I would say volunteer as a transporter in a hospital, but I don't know if they allow that with COVID-19 not being eradicated. I didn't get a girlfriend until doing that for several years. I got good at talking to people because all my conversations were short, so I never had to worry about messing up and it being awkward. I didn't get a girlfriend (or a date) until I was 27, because I was extremely shy and socially awkward. Now I really don't care too much because I have accepted all of my shortcomings and also know how to find subjects that others are interested in that I have enough knowledge in to carry a conversation about.
Example: someone has pictures of dogs, I like my dog and can talk about dogs with them. When I didn't have a dog, I still could, because I had dogs.
Almost everyone here likes Cardinals baseball, I love baseball overall. We can talk about that
A lot of people like American football, I don't follow it deeply, but I like watching games now and again. We can talk about that.

See, three things that I can talk about without fear, because I know enough to keep them engaged, and people like talking about themselves.

[MementoMori777]

Be more open with people, talk to people, do it for practice if you got too

[CountryGurl47]

No! no we're not. we are not necessarily lonely just because we're alone and even if we are lonely that's a lot better than being with somebody who doesn't appreciate you or that doesn't compliment you or even push you to be a better person just by being who they are and that could go for guys or girls

[FifiJones]

Personal hygiene, daily physical activity, even sports, health, get your body looks (not only clothes) to be the best you can and keep improving. Then just talk to whomever you feel like talking to. Not all people are worth it, but some are.

[Zarapeachy]

Do you enjoy your own company? Maybe you can try hanging out outdoors. Going gym etc. making plans with a friend. And don’t put so much pressure on yourself to find a boyfriend

[ColHathi]

There are so many people like that, yeah. I still feel that way. Lemme know if you find a solution :p

[TheFlak38]

Lonely women are lonely by choice.