What are signs that he likes me and am I wasting my time?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy in his late 30s on a dating app almost 8 weeks ago. When we first met up we watched a movie and basketball. We hit it off but I didn’t think he would contact me again. But we have been seeing each other each week. Yes it’s a mix of sex and hanging out. I know this may not be a sign that he likes me but he will tell me his plans for the week, talk about his work and he even played a joke on me last week and said “aww you’re so cute” id really like to let him know that I’m developing feelings but i also am enjoying what we have going on and don’t want to rush anything. How can I subtly find out if he may have feelings for me or get it out of him? Should I wait a few more weeks to tell him?

[Anonymous]

Does he take you on real dates? Does he do little things that make you happy? Does he ask you questions about yourself? Is he interested in you and the little things about you? Does he care how you're feeling or how your day went? Does he put in any kind of effort for you (not just for sex)? Do you talk every day? Is he seeing anyone else? Does he care enough to ask if you're seeing other guys?


For two months of hanging out, you should’ve already known where you stand and how he feels for you. At least for me, thats how i see it. If he hadn't made sure to let me know that he likes me within two months? I’d take it that he doesn't. Thats just me. Your situation might be different.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, meeting from a dating app is okay, but a lot of people on dating apps aren't looking for anything serious. I would advice to have a conversation with him. If you dont wanna risk losing what you have (even though you could do better), then you have no choice but to wait on whatever he decides to do. I wouldn't go there, though.

[Asker]

When we met we didn’t have any expectations. So expecting all that only within a few weeks wouldn’t make any sense. We didn’t meet thinking we both want relationships. We decided to go with the flow. But I’m asking about the subtle things he does like
Letting me know his plans for the week, talking about his work and even making jokes and calling me cute.

[Opinion Owner]

Those dont mean anything. I guess he’s giving you nothing, if thats what you're asking.

[Asker]

I guess I need to have that conversation with him

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he very much into you, and in more ways than one, hehe.