What should I do :( ?

[Floridianmamaaa]

I've been hooking up with this guy who I work with and we told each other that we had feelings for one another. I'm 26 && he's 30, sometimes he will come over and all we do is just talk and cuddle. When I ask him does he sees us being more than a hook up he says he doesn't know or he can't guarantee that it will be a thing in the future. I explained to him that I don't want to waste my time and if he doesn't see us being in a relationship then we should just be friends with benefits. He got mad last night and left when I told him that I want to be nothing more than fwbs because he isn't sure if wants something out of this.. he usually gives me a hug and a few kisses when he leaves but he only gave me a hug.. he slammed my door and when I asked him was he mad about what I wanted he shrugged it off like he didn't care. I haven't heard anything from him.. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

It's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness in any relationship or situation. If you have communicated your feelings and expectations to your partner and he is not willing or able to meet them, it may be worth reconsidering the relationship and whether it is meeting your needs.

It's understandable that you are feeling confused and hurt by your partner's behavior. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with him about your feelings and concerns, and to make sure that you are both on the same page about the direction and nature of your relationship.

If your partner is unwilling or unable to provide you with the level of commitment and emotional connection that you desire, it may be worth considering whether the relationship is meeting your needs and whether it's worth continuing.

Ultimately, it's up to you to determine what is best for your own well-being and happiness. It may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor, who can provide guidance and support as you navigate any challenges or conflicts in your relationships.

[caring__1]

The two of you are definitely not on the same page. You've told each other you have feelings for the other, yet it doesn't sound like you've explored how each of you see a relationship, what you look for, what is meaningful, what you expect, what you bring. People tend to stick to vague generalities rather than deal with specifics, not wanting to be held accountable for anything. Explore meaningful topics with potential partners rather than superficial small talk.

Don't ask people for guarantees about the future. No one can predict the future. On the other hand, we can say what draws us to a person, what we value and what our red flags might be. Apparently, you're looking for something in your head, while expecting him to read your mind. That will only frustrate both of you. Try clear, open, honest communication. You'd be surprised how much easier, smoother and more fulfilling a relationship can be. You'll also learn much quicker when it's time to leave something that won't take you where you want to go.

[Poppymarie]

Girl he sounds toxic af! He wants to keep the option open to having a relationship but doesn’t want to commit in case something better comes along. You should definitely run!