Most of the time I feel like ''I can't be myself around my girlfriend''. Do you ever feel the same?

[Stanley]

I'm a bit of a shy person and I've noticed that I'm constantly trying to look like a stronger and more talkative person around my girlfriend. I don't know why, but I act like this. Do any of you feel or act similarly in their relationship?

[Anonymous]

I'm shy too and I feel I can't be totally myself with my boyfriend though I'm not as talkative but I tend to hide my quirky side from him. So I understand how you feel. My advice is we should both try to be more ourselves because eventually it will come out that we're not who we're pretending to be.

[lollypop2003]

Don’t worry too much! Over time i’m sure you’ll begin to ease around her and feel more comfortable. Someone people are able to act like 100% of themselves with new people and others take time. I would give this a while to settle but if you can't feel yourself getting comfortable and it’s really bothering you, just be honest with her and decide for yourself what you want to do.

[asphaltrhymes]

Hard enough for me just being myself around strangers. Strangers are very judgmental and very different personalities and traits from one to the next. Can be a little annoying sometimes if I didn't always just tune it out, merrily 😋

[Finchie40]

Do you feel like you are walking on egg shells around her? What do you mean you can’t be yourself around her? What does she do to make you feel that way?

[EpicSnail]

I definitely play a role when I encounter a woman I am attracted to, or a man I am intimidated by. I wish I didn't, it's a bad habit, I think. Better to be yourself and take any potential rejections on the chin.

[aoihewgf]

I've only really felt this way when I got in relationships too fast and was led simply by the superficial aspects of her

Dating longer allows me to create a friendship before the feelings of lust ever overpowered me

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

Yeah. I tried it a few times and she didn't like it. I didn’t add any fake qualities to myself, I just deactivate certain parts of my personality when I’m around her.

[Nikki1989]

No, we have the same interests, so we don't clash at all.

[Anonymous]

All the time. It indicates incompatibility, sorry. She's not the one

[Anonymous]

I can’t stay with someone that I can’t be myself around

[In_Trance]

I never feel that way